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I Can't Deal With This - July 22nd 2009, 07:20 AM

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He is my best friend and my first real love.

He suffers from manic depression and suicidal thoughts. He's one of the most important things in the world to me.

A few nights ago, we were talking on the phone and he told me that he was writing a book. He's an absolutely phenomenal writer so I was excited to hear about this new project. He decided instead to tell me that he doesn't plan on living through Freshman year. We're going to be back in school in a month.

I want to tell someone but I already have told people and he is getting help but I feel like the more help I try to give him, the quicker he'll go...

I don't want anyone to tell me that I need to tell a trusted adult or anything like that. I just want to know how to better cope with a suicidal friend...


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Re: I Can't Deal With This - July 22nd 2009, 03:30 PM

I think the best you can do is be there for him keep reassuring him that your there whenever he needs to talk to someone as well, and try and get him out the house if you can? to take his mind of things, show him a good time and that should distract him alot.


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Re: I Can't Deal With This - July 23rd 2009, 08:16 PM

I know you said you didn't want to hear this, but you really do need to tell an adult :/
An adult can get him the help he really needs.
But if you're absolutely set on NOT telling an adult, just keep reminding him that you're there for him. I know when I was feeling that way it really helped when people were just nice to me, just to be nice, not just because they knew I was having a hard time.
   
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Re: I Can't Deal With This - July 23rd 2009, 10:37 PM

Hey there,

I am so glad that you want to be there for your friend; that shows what an amazing person you are.

The first thing you can do is let him know that you will be there for him no matter what and you will be willing to listen to him no matter what as well. It always helps to know that you've got a shoulder to lean on.

Now, I know you said that you don't want to anyone to tell you to go to a trusted adult but the thing is an adult is the safest route to go. As much as you being there for him will help him it won't get him the help that he needs. However, if you were to tell a trusted adult about these things he has been saying it might lead to him getting some more help and that is what he really needs. I know it always sucks to be put in a situation like this but in the end it will all work out.

Good luck and if you ever want to talk feel free to pm me.

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