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My friend wants to kill herself :( - July 11th 2011, 06:44 PM

She told me at school at lunch that she doesn't see any reason staying and no-ones there for her..:/
I told her im there for her but it didn't help.
But i dont think she means it, i think she is attention seeking to be honest :L xx


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Re: My friend wants to kill herself :( - July 11th 2011, 08:37 PM

Well, whether she's attention-seeking or not, you should probably at least keep an eye on her.

Honestly, if you're sure she's seeking attention, just, make sure she's OK, but don't smother her. Like, text her after school to casually chat, without addressing the incident directly, just so you can be sure she's OK, at least.


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Re: My friend wants to kill herself :( - July 11th 2011, 09:11 PM

I agree. Some people say it and don't really mean it but honestly you never know. For the longest time my friend thought I was kidding about this kind of stuff when I would try and talk to her. She would laugh it off. It wasn't until recently that she really started to believe me. I am glad she listens now because she really helps a lot. Honestly even If she is doing it for attention I think like previously said, just keep an eye on her.
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Re: My friend wants to kill herself :( - July 11th 2011, 09:25 PM

I am there for her because i know what it feels like.xx


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Re: My friend wants to kill herself :( - July 12th 2011, 01:51 AM

I understand. Glad that she has such a great friend like you. If you ever want to talk feel free to vm or pm me anytime.
   
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Re: My friend wants to kill herself :( - July 12th 2011, 02:05 AM

I went through a very similar thing with my best friend. Sadly, it didn't end well because after about a year of being there for her I felt overwhelmed and assumed she wouldn't do it, that she was attention seeking. That choice, will haunt me the rest of my life.

As others have said, just make sure she is ok. Some people say it and don't mean it, but other times it's more like a way of asking for help...some people have difficulty doing that. Text her, just chit chat with her, and just be a friend to her in general. I know how trying it is to try and sort out your own problems while dealing with a suicidal friend. It's great you're concerned for her and that you want to help, but don't forget to take care of yourself too.

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Re: My friend wants to kill herself :( - July 12th 2011, 05:03 AM

I'd say if you're SURE she's doing it for attention, keep an eye on her but don't give her attention for what she wants attention for. Like others have said, just talk casually. You can be there for her, but if she really is looking for attention, giving her attention would reinforce negative behavior.

However, I don't really agree so much with ignoring suicide threats because you don't know if she's serious or not because you aren't her. A safe thing to do would be to tell an adult because even if she's just seeking attention, she probably needs help.



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Re: My friend wants to kill herself :( - July 12th 2011, 06:18 AM

Dont EVER assume she's just attention seeking. I can't talk about this in depth because it's pretty triggering for me atm but my best friend almost killed himself last November and if I hadn't of stayed up sending like, a zillion texts and calling him repeatedly (all night long) he says he would have ended it in the morning... it's serious. Something IS wrong. Whether she would actually kill herself is debatable but she's hurting and if you care about her it is your responsibilty to make sure she's okay. No, it is not your responsibility to help her and her life is in no way (and I truly mean no way whatsoever) yours to keep safe. Her life is not in your hands. If you were to look up advice about this online (which I have before) some people say that it is and that you should immediately go to a councelor or else "her blood is on your hands if she dies" but that is NOT true. A lot of people out there are ignorant about this and they are not at all correct when they say that. But, it IS your responsibility to check to see if she's okay if you care about her. If she isn't suggest a councelor, a parent, a close friend, a family member, TeenHelp or [Edited By Jazz Guy] to her. Suggest something and make an effort to show you care. If she isn't your best friend (that's okay if you aren't willing to spend tons of time helping her) just acknowledge it and tell her you do care and that so do other people. Try to encourage her to spend time with friends. Basically what I'm saying is, don't completetly brush this aside like it never happened, because it did and she is hurting.


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Re: My friend wants to kill herself :( - July 12th 2011, 07:59 AM

if she needs attention give it to her! but give it to her for things that deserve it compliment her truly, tell her how lucky you are to be her friend... make it so she doesnt have to some up with anything else for attention. honestly i think in my experience tho there are 3 kinds of suicidal categories... attention for attention. attention for help. and straight up im done. the AA would be those who feel needy and deprived, and i think i deal with these peoiple by giving them attention in ways they crave. for the AH i help! i do every possible thing i can and i dont ever leave their side. For those that are in the last category. it was their time to go. if they werent afraid and just were gone... they never told anyone because they knew they didnt need to be stopped but of course i can break down the last category further because i have been there myself. anyway. i guess i was just thinking through typing....Pm me if you wanna talk


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