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I never feel good enough for myself - August 8th 2011, 01:39 PM

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I have no interest in myself.
I dont understand why people like me.
I think I'm the reason my parents split up.
I think I should have been aborted under normal circumstances.
never interested in anything anymore
i give myself headaches
I know I have lots of good qualities because people tell me about them, but I never recognize them, dont believe them, or think they are lying.
just last week my sister told me something good about myself and I didnt believe her. 2 days later someone else tells the very same thing and I cant seem to say thank you to my sister for seeing something in myself I couldnt see.
I dont like looking in the mirror, its too hard to smile at myself.

I think I'm fading away into a fog of no hope.

why cant I freaking like myself as much as others do?!
   
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Re: I never feel good enough for myself - August 8th 2011, 07:15 PM

Before I give u advice, as it would vary accordingly in this situation, may I ask your gender?
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Re: I never feel good enough for myself - August 8th 2011, 08:29 PM

Honestly, it seems like you just described the definition of "depression". Are you getting any counseling currently?

Most people who suffer depression have near-exact similar situations and feelings.

One thing you might try is to make small goals, such as:
Doing dishes
Playing with a pet
Writing something nice on someone's wall/VM
Reading 5 pages in a book
Etc

And once you have this goal done that day, after awhile you start feeling accomplished. It feels like you've completed something you wanted to and you get a sense of achievement. Just set the goal low and as you start doing them, start setting it higher and higher.

If you don't get a goal done one day, that's okay. Call it your "relax" day.

This is something I came to when I was trying to deal with my thoughts of worthlessness. It has helped me feel better about myself, slowly.

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Re: I never feel good enough for myself - August 9th 2011, 03:47 AM

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Thanks for the help you two
   
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Re: I never feel good enough for myself - August 9th 2011, 04:02 AM

Okay, well first off I agree with Kelly, those all sound like signs of depression.
And along with setting goals each day try focusing on your sports. And every night before you go to bed, smile at yourself in the mirror and say one thing you like about yourself. It has to be a different thing each night. This little excercise helps me, I hope it helps you too. Good luck and PM me whenever you want/need too. <3


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Re: I never feel good enough for myself - August 9th 2011, 04:08 AM

I havent been playing sports because I have withdrawn from being active in friendships, I know its wrong too, I even make excuses to not join my friends because I feel as though all I will do is subtract from their happiness. I dont like to look in the mirror because of what I see, if I smiled idk... and there arent many things I really like about myself...mostly just "ok" with most things
   
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Re: I never feel good enough for myself - August 9th 2011, 06:24 AM

i'm just going to drop a message that you're as wonderful as everyone else out there

and besides that, i think its time you realized that your presence brings smiles into the hearts of people that you know.

stay strong


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Re: I never feel good enough for myself - August 9th 2011, 11:12 PM

Well stop making excuses then! If you don't do it for yourself, do it for us at Teen Help and call up a few of your buds to meet up and toss a football around and/or grab a bite to eat. Laughing and joking with your friends will distract you from the negative emotions your experiencing. your going to be okay, it gets better I promise.


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Re: I never feel good enough for myself - August 10th 2011, 02:21 AM

Thnk you yoshi

Ash- doesnt that just suppress them for the moment? I dont mean to seem ungreatful of your help, because I really do like your advice, including on previous posts.
   
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Re: I never feel good enough for myself - August 10th 2011, 02:54 AM

Well, I don't believe it suppresses them as much as it just distracts you from them. You wont be thinking about it, and the less you think about it, the less it will bother you. Of course that takes time along with other confidence boosting techniques like for instance, every time you think about something negative about yourself, say no and say something positive about yourself out loud. Also just to echo what I said earlier, every night before you go to bed say something positive about yourself. Even if you don't believe it. And make sure you say it out loud! The reason I say that is, the way the human brain works, when you say something out loud your brain process it and starts to truly believe it little by little. Trust me on this, it will help.


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Re: I never feel good enough for myself - August 10th 2011, 03:05 AM

I've noticed after awhile of making myself laugh - with friends or at a movie even if it is horrible - I start to feel better and more relaxed. It's basically a way to trick your brain sometimes. A good trick

Your brain knows your body's motions, and when it does something constantly that is generalized as "happy" then it begins to release those "happy" chemicals.

It's a false happiness, that turns real. This doesn't work for everyone, but it is something I learned that has helped me and a few others in the past.
   
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Re: I never feel good enough for myself - August 10th 2011, 03:15 AM

Ash- ok, I'll do just as you said tonight and the coming nights

Kelly- i get that too, but only if a friend of mine starts laughing or contagiously smiling first, smiling on command is definetly a week point of mine. I just cant do it first because I actually feel disgusted with myself no joke something flows throught my body that doesnt feel good I cant explain it.

Thank you everyone, I really needed it.
   
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Re: I never feel good enough for myself - August 10th 2011, 07:41 PM

Thank you for taking my suggestion. I hope it helps. And if you ever need anything else PM me and let me know!


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Re: I never feel good enough for myself - August 11th 2011, 03:22 AM

No, Thank YOU for giving me that piece of advice I'm using it again tonight
   
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Re: I never feel good enough for myself - August 11th 2011, 09:49 PM

Good!! I still do it every night


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Re: I never feel good enough for myself - August 12th 2011, 04:43 AM

Well I think it might be working because I felt like I could do something with my life today
   
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Re: I never feel good enough for myself - August 12th 2011, 04:57 AM

Thats so amazing!!! Im so glad you felt that!! Keep it up <3


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