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My best friend. - October 1st 2013, 03:56 PM

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A few years ago I noticed my brother growing a bit distant. I wasn't quite sure why until I realized that he was self harming. It was a really scary time for us all. I tried my best to be a support for him through the start, and even now he still does it sometimes. It's really hard watching someone you love and care about do stuff like that. I mean I don't totally understand why he is doing it, but I do care about him loads, and I just want him healthy, happy, and safe. I wish I knew if there was more I could do to make him feel like he isn't alone. I mean we've been best friends for ever, and I couldn't imagine losing him over something like this. It breaks my heart to walk in and see that, it truly does. I hope that one day he realizes that it isn't needed, and that I'm always here to help and lift him up, but until then, I suppose I'm just stuck on the guide lines to cheer and hope that my messages get to him over the screaming crowd in his mind.


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Re: My best friend. - October 1st 2013, 05:01 PM

Hi there, that sounds really hard for you. Let him know that your there if he ever needs or wants to talk, it might be useful for you to check out this article here. Just try not to judge him and although it might be hard, try not to treat him any different.
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Re: My best friend. - October 1st 2013, 08:48 PM

From your post I can tell that you are an incredible sister who loves her brother a lot. It is always really hard to watch someone you love have issues such as self harming. But as long as he has your support and love, that is all you can do. Even if he does not say anything, I am sure that knowing you are there for him is more important than he could ever explain to you in words. Just keep being there for him.


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Re: My best friend. - October 2nd 2013, 01:03 AM

Let me just start out by saying you are an amazing sister!

I think the best thing you can do for him is let him know that you will be there for him, no matter what. You can't force him to talk to you about this, but it may help a lot for him to know that there is someone on his side who loves and cares about him, and is willing to support him. When the time is right, he may be willing to come to you, but until then, try not to pressure him too much.

If he does come and talk to you, remember not to judge him or yell at him. The best thing to do is try and stay calm so he knows that he really CAN come to you. I know you may not always fully understand, but at least try your best to be supportive of him and let him know that you are trying.

Maybe you can also ask your brother for a bit more information on what it means to self harm. You can let him know that you really want to understand a bit more about what he is going through, both so he doesn't have to go through it alone, and so your mind may be eased a bit once you understand more fully.

If things start to get bad again you can try and urge him to get help from adult or try and give him ways to avoid self harm, like writing, art, or music, or even exercise.

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Re: My best friend. - October 2nd 2013, 03:50 PM

Thanks guys. I have no intentions on judging him. I understand that he has is reasons for everything, and I'm sure that one day he will decide to explain them to me. I'm just hope that this doesn't get too bad. I would hate to lose him. :\


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Re: My best friend. - October 2nd 2013, 09:34 PM

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Thanks guys. I have no intentions on judging him. I understand that he has is reasons for everything, and I'm sure that one day he will decide to explain them to me. I'm just hope that this doesn't get too bad. I would hate to lose him. :\
Yeah, just carry on letting him know your there for him. Maybe try to go out with him and do something fun, as this might enable him to feel comfortable in talking to you about it.


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