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Self Harm If you or someone you know is struggling with self harm and needs advice or alternatives, we're here to help.

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Trying to recover - October 8th 2013, 07:45 PM

I'm almost 4 months clean but i can hear the blades calling me again :/ but if i relapse my friend said she would never speak to me again if i relapse she don't care or understand that self-harm is an addiction


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Re: Trying to recover - October 8th 2013, 08:11 PM

i'm sorry your friend is putting that on you. you don't need to have that in the back of your mind while you're trying to recover. good luck. stay strong


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Re: Trying to recover - October 8th 2013, 08:20 PM

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i'm sorry your friend is putting that on you. you don't need to have that in the back of your mind while you're trying to recover. good luck. stay strong
Thanks and i'll try


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Re: Trying to recover - October 9th 2013, 12:41 AM

hey, I understand. Nearly every night I have urges. It sucks when someone doesn't understand that it's an addiction, sometimes I don't even understand. Have you tried keeping yourself busy? Like going to the store, going for a walk, listening to music, painting. There's a list of selfharm alternatives at the top of the support forums. Have you ever sat her down, or texted her, trying to explain it more? Maybe asking her to be more supportive. Like my mom doesn't understand. So I explained that it's like if you're addicted to drugs or smoking. You quit for a while, but you still have that urge and craving to do it again. I hope this helps. If you need anyone, come talk to me. Alright, stay strong. You can do this
   
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Re: Trying to recover - October 9th 2013, 12:49 AM

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hey, I understand. Nearly every night I have urges. It sucks when someone doesn't understand that it's an addiction, sometimes I don't even understand. Have you tried keeping yourself busy? Like going to the store, going for a walk, listening to music, painting. There's a list of selfharm alternatives at the top of the support forums. Have you ever sat her down, or texted her, trying to explain it more? Maybe asking her to be more supportive. Like my mom doesn't understand. So I explained that it's like if you're addicted to drugs or smoking. You quit for a while, but you still have that urge and craving to do it again. I hope this helps. If you need anyone, come talk to me. Alright, stay strong. You can do this
thanks and i have tried to talk to her but her dad used to cut! and he understands but she don't


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Re: Trying to recover - October 9th 2013, 01:14 AM

Hey there,

Maybe if it ever comes up in topic again, you can print out pamphlets or borrow books on self harm? That way, you can show her a bit more about what it means to self harm, and that this isn't something you can just stop.

You deserve to have a support system around you, though. Maybe you can speak with trusted adults in your life like guidance counselors, doctors, teachers, or other relatives. Even if some people don't understand there will always be someone who will!

Also, try using alternatives to self harm. A link to some can be found here. These are healthier, safer ways to cope. If one alternative doesn't work, don't get discouraged. There are plenty more where that came from!

Four months is great by the way, you're doing well.

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Re: Trying to recover - October 9th 2013, 02:14 AM

I just wanted to say- CONGRATULATIONS ON FOUR MONTHS SH FREE!
You should be really proud. Keep at it.
And I think that you should try to explain to your friend that you can't just quit. The urges will still be there. As Dez said, it is a good idea to give her information on self harm so she can understand what you are going through a little better. I hope she starts to understand

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Re: Trying to recover - October 9th 2013, 01:50 PM

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I just wanted to say- CONGRATULATIONS ON FOUR MONTHS SH FREE!
You should be really proud. Keep at it.
And I think that you should try to explain to your friend that you can't just quit. The urges will still be there. As Dez said, it is a good idea to give her information on self harm so she can understand what you are going through a little better. I hope she starts to understand

Stay strong!
Thanks my friend's dad used to cut so him and his wife my main cheerleaders


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