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Scared of loosing her - December 2nd 2013, 08:09 AM

Okay so I posted on the lgbt forum that I am attracted to my therapist and had no clue what to do. Anyways people told me it's normal and happens a lot and that I should just talk to her about it. Anyways I have to call her to make an appointment but I am so scared of telling her that I'm attracted to her because then I'm afraid I'm gonna loose her as a therapist. This thought terrifies me and makes me want to cut. Because I do not warm up to people that well and I bonded with her quickly. I just need help to figure out this whole thing with out worrying myself to death and cutting all my fears into my skin. Is there anyone that has gone through something similar like this and can talk it through with me if so that would be great. Just help please. I can't loose her but I might


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Re: Scared of loosing her - December 2nd 2013, 11:19 AM

Hey there,

A therapist DOES have to act professionally, no matter what. So, even if she doesn't share the same feelings or is straight, she still will have to act professionally around you and hear what you have to say.

I think that you should write a letter to your therapist, explaining your feelings that way. Maybe you can also explain a little bit about how you DO want to work through these feelings but DON'T want to lose her as a therapist because you warmed up to her quickly and are getting help from her even though it is very hard for you to warm up to people. You can also mention how the worry about losing her is triggering you to want to self harm. Maybe she'll give you suggestions to handle that as well.

She may or may not give you the option to see a new therapist if that would make you feel the most comfortable, but you don't have to take her up on that offer. If she suggests it, let her know that you would rather try and work things out with her first, rather than automatically start with someone new. As long as this isn't distracting you too much and you still do any work she gives you (from what I remember of the LGBT+ thread, it's not too distracting), she should be able to work with you, so try and take a deep breath and remember that she'll probably work with you and even help you sort these feelings rather than automatically saying you need to see someone else.

I think that it may also help to tell her how you feel sooner rather than later. That way you don't have all of these pent up fears and worries inside of you that you'll want to cut into your skin. So, I think it may be worth it to make that appointment soon.

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Re: Scared of loosing her - December 2nd 2013, 11:45 AM

Thanks. Yeah I plan on telling her next time I see her. Well maybe not exactly telling her but I plan on asking her a hypothetical question so I can get an answer and if the answer is something that I do not like I won't tell her my feelings and I'll just deal with them myself but if the answer is something acceptable like we can work through it then I will tell her. I just don't think I can come right out and tell Her. She already knows I'm g add y I've told her that much. So we will see I'll betcha know what happens but i still have to make an appointment and she is off on Mondays.


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