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Not again :( - April 11th 2015, 10:55 PM

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I had stopped cutting but now I have started again. I feel so ashamed of myself and I can't talk to family or friends about it as some of them are the cause of the stress. Its so hard to handle things at the moment because of people hurting and betraying me. I feel like I will never be able to stop self harming. They make me feel like I belong in the circus, they make me feel worthless and that I don't deserve to live. Maybe it would be just be best if I slashed my wrists, they wouldn't care or miss me.

I don't see why they can't just leave me alone and just let me live my life but they just have to ruin things when I get my life back on track and then I go back downhill again.
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Re: Not again :( - April 12th 2015, 12:18 AM

Hi there.

Firstly I want to say that it's great you had stopped self harming. I'm an honest believer that if you've done it before, you can do it again so that gives me a lot of hope and faith in you.

There is absolutely no need to feel ashamed of yourself what so ever. Unfortunately relapses sometimes happen and there's not a lot we can do about it but to me it seems like you might be able to take some steps forwards to help get you out of this. Either way you're strong enough to beat this again. Like I said you've done it before so you can do it again.

Only some of them are the cause of the stress so have you thought about talking to the friends and family who aren't the cause of the stress. Also it seems like it may be a good idea to speak to the people who are causing you stress and explain the situation to them and how its making you feel. It may even be that they don't know how its hurting and upsetting you.

You CAN stop self harm. At the end of the day you're in control of your actions. Sooner or later when you feel you are ready, you will feel able to stop self harming; that time will come. Until then, talk to people, write things down, hit a pillow, anything to get what you feel out in a safe way. This isn't going to be an easy fight but you can do it and I believe in you so keep at it, okay and remember we're always here for you.

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Re: Not again :( - April 12th 2015, 12:02 PM

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Hi there.

Firstly I want to say that it's great you had stopped self harming. I'm an honest believer that if you've done it before, you can do it again so that gives me a lot of hope and faith in you.

There is absolutely no need to feel ashamed of yourself what so ever. Unfortunately relapses sometimes happen and there's not a lot we can do about it but to me it seems like you might be able to take some steps forwards to help get you out of this. Either way you're strong enough to beat this again. Like I said you've done it before so you can do it again.

Only some of them are the cause of the stress so have you thought about talking to the friends and family who aren't the cause of the stress. Also it seems like it may be a good idea to speak to the people who are causing you stress and explain the situation to them and how its making you feel. It may even be that they don't know how its hurting and upsetting you.

You CAN stop self harm. At the end of the day you're in control of your actions. Sooner or later when you feel you are ready, you will feel able to stop self harming; that time will come. Until then, talk to people, write things down, hit a pillow, anything to get what you feel out in a safe way. This isn't going to be an easy fight but you can do it and I believe in you so keep at it, okay and remember we're always here for you.

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I don't trust any of my family and friends because when I do they just seem to talk behind my back and they seem to think I won't find out about it when I always do. I am so depressed about it all right now. I don't know who I can talk to about anything. Don't even know if I can trust my own dad anymore. I love my family so much but I don't feel like they don't love me. My own mum said it was a mistake to have even let me be born.
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Re: Not again :( - April 12th 2015, 06:32 PM

Hi there,

Like Jessie, I believe that you can do this again because you've done it before. Going free before means that you are strong and you most definitely are capable of doing it again. You shouldn't be ashamed of relapsing; it happens to the best of us sometimes and I like to think that it's part of recovery. Recovery is a process, not perfection. You said your friends and family are a big cause of the stress you're experiencing, so I suggest avoiding them and removing yourself from situations that you find triggering when possible. If your friends are toxic, perhaps you can end the friendships and try to make new ones. Consider calling a hotline so you have someone to talk through things with.


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