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Celebrating milestones. - January 1st 2018, 12:00 AM

I'm coming up to a fairly significant milestone in my recovery, and I want to do something nice for myself... but I'm drawing a blank as to what. So I thought I'd come here and ask you lovely people how you celebrate or reward yourself for achievements like this. Feel free to share any and all ideas and stories.


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Re: Celebrating milestones. - January 1st 2018, 12:16 AM

So for my 6 months of cut free and 51/50 free I got a semi-colon tattoo. It means a lot to me. For my year I am planning on getting another tattoo that is a quote that sums up my struggles and how I will go on.

I know you have a couple tattoos maybe you could get one to signify this milestone, maybe a quote that sums it up? New piercing you have been wanting maybe? Or something really meaningful for you. I don't really have that many ideas.

For me the tattoos are really important and special to me and that is why I get them to mark a milestone.

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Re: Celebrating milestones. - January 1st 2018, 02:28 AM

Hey,

I have done a few things to celebrate milestones. When I first stopped cutting back in 2013 or something like that I ended up getting my cat as an early six month gift. I did this because I thought that an animal might help and it was actually something that my therapist suggested. My cat is probably the best 'gift' I ever gave myself. :P

I relapsed back in December 2015 and struggled to get over that for about 8 months. I had a one year celebration of being self harm free and I bought myself some Harry Potter items I had been wanting. I knew the anniversary was coming up so I saved money for a couple months to be able to afford it.

Some other things that people have done is go to a movie, go out to lunch/dinner with friends etc.

There are a ton of things that you can do to celebrate it just depends on what you think you would like best!

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Re: Celebrating milestones. - January 4th 2018, 03:17 PM

I haven’t really celebrated any self-harm related milestones in a long time since I still struggle with self-harm. But I do celebrate other milestones in my recovery (like driving alone and starting school). I usually purchase something I’ve been interested in or I go out to lunch, perhaps. I am planning on rewarding myself when I get my driving confidence back or as a ‘first month back in school’ reward and I’m either going to get my hair done or purchase a new tarantula in a species I’ve been wanting. I realize that isn’t the best advice for people who dislike spiders.


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Re: Celebrating milestones. - January 7th 2018, 11:32 PM

Thank you all for the responses! I guess the problem is that I often reward myself for other things (e.g. surviving a long week of work or finishing all of my housework) so it's hard to come up with a reward that feels "special" enough to mark a recovery milestone. I definitely won't be getting another pet as I have more than enough (and I have nothing against spiders but my track record with non-mammalian pets isn't great), and I already have a tattoo planned this year so that's probably not an option (although I really like the idea of getting a tattoo for the next milestone), but those are both really good ideas. I guess I'll start window shopping now and see if anything catches my eye so I can start saving up.


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Re: Celebrating milestones. - January 8th 2018, 12:15 AM

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Thank you all for the responses! I guess the problem is that I often reward myself for other things (e.g. surviving a long week of work or finishing all of my housework) so it's hard to come up with a reward that feels "special" enough to mark a recovery milestone. I definitely won't be getting another pet as I have more than enough (and I have nothing against spiders but my track record with non-mammalian pets isn't great), and I already have a tattoo planned this year so that's probably not an option (although I really like the idea of getting a tattoo for the next milestone), but those are both really good ideas. I guess I'll start window shopping now and see if anything catches my eye so I can start saving up.

I have the same problem, at least to an extent. I don't reward myself often so spending a bit more money on something can be difficult to do for one reason or another. That being said, I have something planned for my two year self harm free anniversary. It's a ways off but I had to kind of figure out a budget and than work it into my savings each month.

Window shopping is probably one of the best ways to figure it all out to be honest. Maybe even make a list of things you might be interested over the course of waiting for the milestone to approach.

Best of luck.


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Re: Celebrating milestones. - January 8th 2018, 12:33 AM

I usually buy something when I reach milestones. I think you should get yourself really nice



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