Triggering: This is just great...

[Nutmeg]

After a couple weeks of one of my friends pestering me about what's wrong and such, I finally tell her (GAD, ED, SH, Depression, several suicide attempts) and instead of helping me through it, as she said she would once I told her what was going on, she starts on a bit of a rant about how she had depression, pretty much everyone has GAD, she still SH's, but it's cutting so obviously 'it's more serious than scratching only almost to the point of bleeding'. And so on.

It just makes me feel weak. She tells me she wants to help me and that I should tell her what's eating at me. I tell her. She goes on the fritz and doesn't pretty much says that she has it off worse and that I shouldn't complain. But... Where was I complaining? She asked me what was going on, and I told her.

And I thought that telling her might actually help me out with what I'm going through. I mean... Isn't bottling it up inside supposed to be worse? I was better off when I was doing that.

[LittleFish]

Hey. I'm sorry your friend isn't being supportive or showing any sympathy. It's hard when you open up to someone about something personal and all they want to do is talk about their own problems. Please, don't feel weak, though. Your issues aren't any less painful or difficult to deal with than hers. It's not fair of her to treat you that way, and I frankly think she's being a bit selfish. Understand, though, that people with more "experience" aren't necessarily more able to help. People with serious issues can sometimes become defensive when they hear about people with problems that don't seem as bad as theirs because it makes them feel like they aren't being heard. However, that is her own problem and it's not right of her to act like she wants to help then act like you're just complaining. I wouldn't go to her for help about this anymore. If she asks you to talk to her, you can explain that you're not comfortable talking about it anymore. Remember, if you need help with any of these problems there are plenty of people on here willing to talk to you. I know it's not the same as in real life, but you don't have to keep it all bottled up. Take care.

[Nutmeg]

Originally Posted by LittleFish

Hey. I'm sorry your friend isn't being supportive or showing any sympathy. It's hard when you open up to someone about something personal and all they want to do is talk about their own problems. Please, don't feel weak, though. Your issues aren't any less painful or difficult to deal with than hers. It's not fair of her to treat you that way, and I frankly think she's being a bit selfish. Understand, though, that people with more "experience" aren't necessarily more able to help. People with serious issues can sometimes become defensive when they hear about people with problems that don't seem as bad as theirs because it makes them feel like they aren't being heard. However, that is her own problem and it's not right of her to act like she wants to help then act like you're just complaining. I wouldn't go to her for help about this anymore. If she asks you to talk to her, you can explain that you're not comfortable talking about it anymore. Remember, if you need help with any of these problems there are plenty of people on here willing to talk to you. I know it's not the same as in real life, but you don't have to keep it all bottled up. Take care.

Thank you. I already talk to someone else (a closer friend, definatly) in real life, but talking with people online about these things is also very helpful. It's just that I can't talk to this person about things much because I don't want to 'overload' him with all this crap that's going on all at once.

[duckiedancer]

First off, no one should ever say that they had it worse than another. Everyone has their own story and no ones is ever worse than another. We all suffer in one way or another, but we should judge each other. Good luck with what all life gives you!

[Lexy9e]

Glad that you find chatting on here is helping. Teen help is a great place to find people who are going through similar things as you are willing to help and lend a listening ear. Sometimes that is the best help a person can receive. I want to start by saying that your friend seems to think this is a competition, which it should not be. I suggest trying to help her a bit and see if she attempts to help you in return. According to her you are BOTH struggling together. If so then maybe you can suggest trying to help each other. It's not right for her to bark out at you and not be as supportive. You have every right to discuss the issues in your life that's what friends do. The suggestion of talking to another person that you are close with is helpful. There is only so much you can do for someone so I suggest just talking about things with her. Good luck and I am here if you need me! )

Best,
Lexy