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Which is worse - January 18th 2011, 11:43 PM

Self harm or not dealing with emotions/feelings at all?

Me and my friend was discussing this and I was wondering what you guys thought.

I mean Self harm is bad becuase well your self harming and it can be addicting and all kinds of stuff.
But on the other hand not dealing with emotions is really bad to. It builds up and builds up and really bad things can come from that.


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Re: Which is worse - January 19th 2011, 03:53 AM

That's an interesting question, Kendi!

I think it really amounts to almost the same thing.

Self-harm is one step up from running away from your emotions. When you're self-harming, you're acknowledging that those emotions are there, you're trying to do something to deal with it. (Even though this something isn't exactly the best thing you could be doing.) I think this is why self-harm is sometimes seen as a "good" idea -- they're dealing with the problem the best way they can or know how.

And if you don't deal with your emotions for too long, you can lose control, which can lead to -- yep, self-harm.

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Re: Which is worse - January 19th 2011, 03:57 AM

I have been using that as justification for my self-harm for a really long time. Saying that self-harming is better than not dealing with my emotions at all. Really neither is healthy and neither one of them should be an option. I'm just beginning to realize this and trying to figure out how I'm going to deal with things in a much healthier way. In the end, I don't really know which is worse. You can argue both sides. I think most people would say self-harm, mostly because it's more extreme. But in my opinion both are unhealthy and there are alternatives to both.
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Re: Which is worse - January 19th 2011, 04:18 AM

Hey Kendi.

This is an interesting premise. However, I do not believe that self-harm and avoiding emotions are mutually exclusive. I think that SH is one of those "really bad things" that comes from not dealing with emotions in the proper manner. It can also be another way to continue avoiding those feelings.

It's all unhealthy. There is no better or worse here.

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Re: Which is worse - January 19th 2011, 05:47 AM

Not everyone cuts for the same reasons but for me cutting IS nit dealing with things

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Re: Which is worse - January 20th 2011, 12:00 AM

Hey Kendi,

Even though self-harm is a way that some people release emotion, it isn't a positive way of releasing emotion, and therefore it affects the person in a negative way. Instead of trying to justify self-harm, it's a better idea for the person who self-harms to focus on positive ways to release emotion.
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