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best friend told - January 23rd 2011, 01:17 AM

so last night i had a long conversation with my best friend about my cutting and i found out this afternoon that she told my mom. im not mad at her but my mind has been going insane all day. im at school so im away from my parents which helps and thankfully i was with one of my very good friends all day. she knew everything that was going on with me and she kept me grounded all day. i really owe her my life. and she even talked to my mom and assured her i was okay which was good. but my brain is still running miles because i NEVER wanted my parents to find out.
   
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Re: best friend told - January 23rd 2011, 04:44 PM

It must be a really hard situation to be in, i know you said you didn't want your parents to find out, but it means they can support you and help you now. It sounds like your friend was trying to do what she thought was best for you, whether you think it is or not.
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Re: best friend told - January 23rd 2011, 05:24 PM

thanks.
yea my friend was worried about me which is why she did it. like i never wanted my parents to find out because i didnt think i was in any danger, but i guess other people didnt feel the same way. my parents have been supportive and stuff but im afraid to go home. i havent seen them face to face only talked to them on the phone and online. theyre looking into getting me a therapist but idk how well thats gonna go . im not very good at talking face to face with people so im afraid im just gonna clam up and not say much if i go. any suggestions?
   
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Re: best friend told - January 23rd 2011, 05:47 PM

I am sorry=( But I know how it is to be in your best friend's postition. Believe me when I say she did this strictly to make sure you were safe, not to hurt you. It is so hard to just tell. Yesterday, I had to tell my mom that my friend has been getting abused. I swear I was just sitting in my room for a whole hour hardly moving just crying. When my best friend got here she had to bring my mom in cause I couldn't go to her. I cried whatever tears I hadden't cried and told her the full story. It is so scary and so hard to do because you are constantly worried about what your friend will think of you. I still feel rotten for telling but I know in the back of my head that I am saving her life. Just like your best friend is doing for you. She really loves you and wants you to be okay. I would encourage seeing a therapist. It would really help. Don't clam up, this is a way of getting help. They are not there to make you feel scared, they are there to help you. I hope everything works out okay. If I were you, I would message your best friend and tell her thank you for being such a good friend to you and let her know that you are not mad at her. She did a really big thing this afternoon.


   
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Re: best friend told - January 23rd 2011, 06:06 PM

She's an amazing friend and you should hang on to her...she obviously loves you. Your parents probably should know, now they can help you. I hope you find the strength to beat this.
   
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Re: best friend told - January 23rd 2011, 06:17 PM

Seeing a therapist is a good thing there very easy to talk to trust me I have oen there great most of the time. If you dont liek the first one you go see then find another therapist. You can write down what you want to say to the therapist if you cant talk I have done that before. Hugggss tell yuor friend she did a good job and your not mad at her then give her a big hugggg and say thanks you helped me finally get help bec now im seeina therapist. You will feel so much better once you see a therapist {: huggsgss Proud of you
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Re: best friend told - January 23rd 2011, 06:26 PM

It must be a difficult situation you're in but I hope you do realise your friend was only doing what she thought was best and I'm glad to hear that you're not mad at her for this.

Your parents knowing might be for the best. My mum found out a few years ago I was doing it and that sort of gave me a reason to quit because she said she wanted to check on me every so often. It just might be the thing that helps you quit.

Talking to a therapist is hard but perhaps write little notes down on some paper before you go about what you want to say so if you feel like you're going to clam up you can refer back to the notes.

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Re: best friend told - January 23rd 2011, 06:27 PM

thanks everyone
yea my friend knows im not mad at her. we talked for about an hour about why she did this and everything and then didnt talk for a few hours (were states apart at two different schools so we were texting) but later on in the night we talked again and it wasnt even about this. it was like nothing happened because i didnt want to talk about it anymore and she respected that. i am grateful for what she did but i still have the initial sting and fear of the fact that my big secret is now out in the open
   
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Re: best friend told - January 24th 2011, 03:31 PM

I know what you mean about the initial sting but it will go, your friend obviously loves you and doesn't want to see you hurt, hang onto them.
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Re: best friend told - January 25th 2011, 11:47 PM

yea shes been my best friend since 5th grade and were now freshman in college. shes not going anywhere lol. and it is starting to get better. its been 4 days and im doing alot better. im actually getting excited about going to therapy and getting my life back. i really miss being the old happy me. but im still nervous i wont talk. like i just want to go and have that magically fix everything :/
   
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Re: best friend told - January 26th 2011, 12:30 AM

Aww well I am very glad things are better=) Remember, its best if you do talk. Even if you are scared. The more you talk, the easier it will be to fix things.


   
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Re: best friend told - January 26th 2011, 01:06 AM

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Re: best friend told - January 26th 2011, 01:36 AM

Good luck my dear, she has done a very brave thing. (:
   
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Re: best friend told - January 26th 2011, 11:43 AM

I'm really glad things are getting better for you and good luck with the therapist
   
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Re: best friend told - January 29th 2011, 08:36 AM

I'm glad things are getting better, good luck hun and stay strong :-)


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