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I want to cut - April 7th 2012, 11:20 PM

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I'm desperate right now. I've gone two days without but the temptation is just getting stronger.
My mum almost saw my bare arm, because she came into my room when I had short sleeves on. She wanted to talk to me about people in college (they all hate me and she thinks I'm taking everything too seriously), and told me that I should just count my blessings and think of people whose lives are worse off than mine. That really didn't help. It just made me feel guilty for being sad about things in my life. I tried counting my blessings, but all I could come up with was that I have a roof over my head and a family who cares.
Then I just started thinking about all the bad things in my life.

My boyfriend knows I SH, and has known since Christmas, but he doesn't seem to want to help me or anything. In fact, when he found out, he just got a bit upset, which made me feel guilty.

What do I do?


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Re: I want to cut - April 8th 2012, 01:31 AM

I'm sorry you're having a rough time. I understand what you mean by feeling guilty when someone says stuff like your mom said. I've heard that before too! It does make you feel like crap.

Feel free to PM me. I don't know what to say, but I wish I could help you. I've only been SHing for a month, but I know the urge, and I can only imagine it gets worse the longer you SH for....

You do not have to SH. It's not the only option to deal with your feelings. I promise you. You just have to hang on until you find the better way to deal with it... Stay strong, I know you can do it.

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Re: I want to cut - April 8th 2012, 01:36 AM

Just find even the one good reason to NOT cut, if you can find any. I know one thing doesn't really make a big difference, but try to just hang onto that good thing. That voice in your head saying there's no way out, it's wrong. there is hope. <3


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Re: I want to cut - April 8th 2012, 12:22 PM

Hey! You've done well going two days without cutting! I know how hard the urges are to resist.... I've heard that you can't just stop SHing, and it's better to start replacing it with other things, because honestly sh is not the best way to deal with things (I sound like a hypocrite being a self harmer myself, I know!) try to replace it with other things, like flicking an elastic band against your wrist. This doesn't leave scars but it helps in the same way cutting does.
I know how hard it is but try talking to someone. You say your family cares, and all they would want to do is help you. And your boyfriend probably hasn't been in this situation before so he might not know what do to?
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Re: I want to cut - April 8th 2012, 02:23 PM

Hi there,

Like Katherine said, in my opinion the easiEST (stopping is never easy) way to stop SHing is probably replacing it with other things. I'm going to link you to the alternatives thread. But well done for going 2 days, I'm proud and you should be proud too. It takes a lot of strength and courage. <3

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Re: I want to cut - April 8th 2012, 03:32 PM

I did it! It's been three and a half days And I'm going to see my friends soon.
I hadn't even thought about it today, at all, until I saw this, and I don't want to do it. The urge just isn't there.
I already feel I've accomplished something.
Thanks for supporting me It really means a lot.


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Re: I want to cut - April 8th 2012, 04:38 PM

Well done!! I'm honestly smiling after hearing that!

You have accomplished something! Be proud!

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Re: I want to cut - April 12th 2012, 05:49 PM

Im glad you made it three days...i made it one and then almost ended up in the hospital so yeah congrats! im proud
   
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Re: I want to cut - April 13th 2012, 10:12 PM

I also smiled hearing this! It's amazing to see that someone has achieved so much! And it's amazing not to have those urges because it's just a great feeling! If you can do 3 days you can do forever! Good luck and I really hope it all works out for you!
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Re: I want to cut - April 16th 2012, 01:15 AM

Thanks everyone. It's been 11 days now. But there's still a long way to go.


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Re: I want to cut - April 16th 2012, 01:20 AM

Hey Becci,

I'm glad that you've made it 11 days! That's really great. I know it's hard, but that you've made it this far proves that you can go 11 more days, and even more after that.

Just try to believe in yourself. You can do it!

If you ever feel triggered or need to talk about anything else, feel free to PM me. I'm always here!





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