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4 years - March 25th 2010, 11:56 PM

I was attacked 4 years ago, and by attacked i mean raped.

The guy was sent to jail, and i saw him today.

Its brought back so many painful memories of it all.

I've now become snappy and shouting at my boyfreind, i dont know how to tell him that the guy is out.






   
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Re: 4 years - March 26th 2010, 01:15 AM

Something like that can be overwhelming and i'm sorry you saw him. I know its probably hard to talk about it and is probably the furthest from being the ideal conversation starter but opening up and being honest about it to him might actually make things better. Telling him will give him an understanding of where your frustration is coming from. I hope you get it all figured out. I wish you the best of luck


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Re: 4 years - March 26th 2010, 01:21 AM

I totally agree with Hannah. Your boyfriend should understand why you're acting that way- if you tell him. He'll comfort you. Thing's will be okay! I wish you luck, and I'm sorry to hear about such a thing.

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Re: 4 years - March 26th 2010, 12:04 PM

hey sweetie x
i know from experience that something like that is really hard to comprehend let alone talk about, however it has happened and we cant change the past, but we caan make the future brighter, im sure if your boyfriend loves you he will be understanding towards you fears, i was abused by a school teacher when i was about 7, he did get prosecuted years later but i still never mentioned anything, not even to my parents, it is really hard not to keep thinking of it in my mind and feels almost to overwhelming to speak face to face to someone about, i also believe communication in relationships is essential for a healthy happy relationship, talk to your man, im sure he will understand, im here if you want an understanding ear to speak too x
   
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Re: 4 years - March 29th 2010, 04:07 AM

Hey there,

I know how hard something like that can be, but try talking to your boyfriend. Does he know you were raped? Talking can help, and letting him know that it's not him that's causing you to be upset will definitely keep your relationship from falling apart. If he loves you, he'll understand, just talk to him.


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Re: 4 years - March 29th 2010, 12:50 PM

He kinda knows, I told him bits of my past life, just never had the guts to tell him the whole lot.

I feel like a liar not telling him





   
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Re: 4 years - March 29th 2010, 01:57 PM

you shouldnt feel like a liar, i can sympathise with your feelings though, i've been in a similair situation to you, it may seem hard to talk about these things but in the end i believe that (pardon my expression) ''a burden shared is a burden halved'' and as cas* said if he truly loves you then he'll understand. you really should talk to him


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Re: 4 years - March 29th 2010, 09:16 PM

your not a liar and should not feel guilty. though im sure hed be sympathetic and comfort you. you have to do whats good for you in this situation
its not selfish its jsut the only way to cope.
do whats best for you and just remind yourself that he cant get to you anymore
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Re: 4 years - April 1st 2010, 03:14 PM

we had a heart to heart convo, i mean i posted in another thread aswell so we both talked about everything that was upsetting us. I told him a bout the guy, and he's shown me another way to get to work without passing his work

I never have to see him again.





   
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