my friend is beein sexually abused, help

[TheUnseen]

okay fact is, i dont know for sure. she havent told me.
however i've know her really well compared to only known her for 6month over internet.
we cam and talk everyday, not one day have gone by without us talking since we met.
i wont go into how i came to this conclusion, but explain how the cercomstances are atm. update ect.
i hope i can get some help, advice ect.

shes 21, like me. living in canada, quebec more presice, so shes french/canadian.
she got school away from home, and home in the holidays. trying to make money for next year. wtich she has problems with :/

im walking around my home in denmark making money for trying to get well again, dont have much money as u can proberly guess.

im really worried about her, and hope she tells me about it soon.
but what can i do?
i wanna help her badly, just no idea how. first things first, she gotta open up to me about it tho.
but she will at some point i know.
any advice ppl? :S
really worried, she's really not doing good since she got home

[TheLittleNinja]

Hey There

You sound like a great friend to be this worried for someone I would just make sure that you are always there for her to talk to - make sure you are approachable to her. If she still doesn't feel happy to talk to you - some abuse victims don't like to talk because they feel it's their own fault - then maybe you could find a way of bringing it up?

Just tell her that your worried about her (because of what you'd recently seen, heard, read ect?!).

You don't want to pressure her into talking to you - as you don't know for sure yet whether or not the actual abuse is taking place. Have you told her about TeenHelp? Maybe you could bring it up, so that she knows of somewhere anonymous she could seek help? If you find out for definite that she IS being abused, then I would maybe wait for the right time and then bring up with her.

Remember that victims are often made to feel like it is their own fault they are abused. Be prepared for vivid details if she does open up to you - as she may need to get it all out of her system. You must not get angry - but react in a calm manner. Let her know of the various different ways of seeking help.

Finally, make sure you check these out :http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f13-r...use-resources/

I hope this helped. I you need anything else feel free to message me.
Claire

[TheUnseen]

thanks for ur advice's Claire ^^

im trying my best, lettin her know that im ther for her, that shes not alone ect.
trying to bring it up too once in a while, but as soon as she realise what it is im trying to get her to talk to me about, she just get angry :S
she has a way of gettin angry really easy when in a bad mood :/
shes very defensive sometimes.

she knows im worried about her, she just tries to tell me nothing in it, which i know aint true at all.
she usually get everything done on her own, no help for anything, too independend i guess. which makes it only harder to help her :/

[TheLittleNinja]

Is there no way you guys could meet up? It's often easier to talk in person, and have hugs and stuff.
At the time being though, it sounds like there is nothing more you can do; but lets see if anyone else on here comes up with some bright ideas :]