So uncomfortable with strangers showing sexual interest in me

[Singing to the starlight]

So this guy I've been talking to for a while, who's always been coming on to me for a while. We stopped talking for a bit and I met him the other day by accident. I didn't know it was the same guy until we started talking again. I figure now he's seen me he's interested again? Last time I looked he was in a relationship so I said no but I think he's single now.

Thing is, he's a nice(ish) guy and looks lush. But...

Well, I thought I was over my past. The things that happened when I was younger.

I'm fairly sexually active, but I am always drunk when it happens, and its always with men I trust as friends and loved ones anyway. Well, mostly. The idea of a guy I don't know 100% liking me..scares the holy fucking crap out of me.

I didn't know this was still in me. I mean...I knew, I've always accepted its a part of me and always will be but...I dunno. This has knocked me sideways a little.

[Amanda-Marie]

hey i understand I've had a lot of things happen to me too and i know it can be scary trusting a guy just like that. For one thing..do you know this guy really well? because if you don't then i suggest talking with the people you met him through and making sure hes a good guy you know like a background check and second you have to remember that the past is the past and maybe like if you date him take it nice and slow, don't go getting drunk w him or at least not for a while until you gain trust with him. And it wouldn't hurt to tell him so he can understand where you are coming from. If he is not understanding of this then he doesn't deserve you and its not a good idea to be dating him. which gets to the point you are not dating him yet like maybe go out with him a few times see if hes alright and how you feel. Then once you get to trust him more, if you still like him after that is then tell him what happened to you but wait a little while first, and tell him you want to take things slowly so that you can get used to it and feel secure. If hes a really good guy and he loves you then he will. ps if you need to talk to someone you can pm me

[Singing to the starlight]

Bleh.... I don't do relationships. I'm really not ready for that yet. I have quite a lot of hook ups but its always when I'm drunk so it doesn't kinda..bother me