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Are you still a virgin after sexual abuse? -
April 28th 2011, 07:09 AM
I was sexually abused as a kid... but I still say that I'm a virgin... but just out of curiousity.... if you havent lost your virginity otherwise do you still consider yourself a virgin or not.. cuz i'm not really sure if i should...?
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April 28th 2011, 09:47 AM
This is actually a tough question. Personally I would say no if the person raped you as you've had sex physically (consensually or not) Emotionally I suppose you are a virgin. It depends what you want to call yourself really
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April 28th 2011, 04:36 PM
I was sexually abused a kid too.. He has sex with me and i would say i was not a virgin cos he had sex with me.. BUt it depends on what people think and whether they see thereself as a virgin or not..
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May 10th 2011, 01:28 PM
Not physically no. But I think untill you do it willingly, you could call yourself a virgin
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May 10th 2011, 01:43 PM
I would say that physically you're not, but emotionally you still are.
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May 10th 2011, 08:55 PM
I think that yes, you can still be a virgin. It was abuse that happened, not anything you wanted at all.
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May 10th 2011, 09:00 PM
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May 10th 2011, 11:00 PM
Virginity is more than one thing.
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Re: Are you still a virgin after sexual abuse? -
May 10th 2011, 11:04 PM
Honestly I would say no, but that's just me because I take virginity as a physical thing, it is emotional but to me I consider the fact that is was sex, consensual or not it was. But honestly if you want to consider yourself a virgin you have all the right to especially taking into account the emotional part of it.
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May 10th 2011, 11:12 PM
I say i am i was raped before but i only say because i never talked about it also it helps me block out the memory of that night
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Re: Are you still a virgin after sexual abuse? -
May 10th 2011, 11:43 PM
I went through the same question and it was truly a struggle for me. I finally had sex with my boyfriend of three months just so I could assure myself I was definitely not a virgin. I do regret it now. Now, in my opinion, you're a virgin until you emotionally give it away, but it varies from person to person.
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Re: Are you still a virgin after sexual abuse? -
May 11th 2011, 04:32 AM
i think you still are. Its not like you wanted to lose it...so its still yours. You havent willingly given it to anyone yet.
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May 17th 2011, 05:07 PM
I wasn't actually r*ped (sorry, I still can't say or type that word) until after I'd lost my virginity willingly. However, if it had happened when I was still a virgin, I would've said I was one. Obviously physically I wouldn't be but personally unless you do it consensually, emotionally you still would be and that's the thing that counts for me.
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May 18th 2011, 05:18 AM
I would leave it up to the individual.
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Re: Are you still a virgin after sexual abuse? -
May 19th 2011, 01:55 AM
In my opinion, you're not a virgin until you give it away. If someone asked you if you were a virgin you could say yes. Because in your mind, you haven't had the bond of sex yet, if that makes any sense... That's the way that I've always thought of it. I don't like people saying that you can get it taken, but sadly it can happen. I would say, you're a virgin until you willingly give it away
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Re: Are you still a virgin after sexual abuse? -
May 19th 2011, 03:12 AM
Depends on the person's view on what virginity is really. Personally I think yes, you're still a virgin, since you didn't make the decision to have sex.
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Re: Are you still a virgin after sexual abuse? -
May 19th 2011, 05:16 AM
umm i would say u r coz i got sexualy abused by my dad i count my self as a vergin
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May 19th 2011, 07:59 PM
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Re: Are you still a virgin after sexual abuse? -
May 20th 2011, 03:30 AM
I say you decide what counts as your first and what doesn't. It wasn't your schoice so no need to count it. You're a virgin.
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May 26th 2011, 06:28 AM
I think you still are because it wasn't willing and you never wanted it to happen. You're not not a virgin untill you have consensual sex.
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May 26th 2011, 11:15 PM
I disagree with the idea that the physical definition of virginity is so generalised that it applies to rape, as well. I believe that virginity is not only the act of penetration but of making the choice for that penetration to occur. For me, virginity is something that is more or less "given" away by way of a choice; it's not something that can be taken. Therefore, I see the loss of virginity as being a consensual act, and therefore, I do still see someone as begin a virgin after rape.
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Re: Are you still a virgin after sexual abuse? -
June 1st 2011, 04:31 AM
I agree with this, I always considered myself a virgin, although my medical records say my hymen was broken at 6 to me I was still a virgin, and I think nothing is wrong with at all. I think it is actually normal to consider yourself a virgin... It will be okay.
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Re: Are you still a virgin after sexual abuse? -
June 1st 2011, 06:08 AM
No, losing your virginity is also an emotional and mental thing in my opinion. To each his/her own but honestly something that special can't be taken from you by someone who was being a moron.
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June 2nd 2011, 08:17 PM
i was also abused as a child and got raped at the age of 10. Personally i don't belive getting raped makes you lose your virginity. Losing virginity is something pure and magical that you want to happen not scary and tormenting. So until you have sex willingly with the one you love you're still a virgin my dear.
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June 5th 2011, 08:35 PM
This is a personal choice.
Physically it is obvious it is a no... But you've never had sex. You were raped. It is so different. When You're At The End Of Your Rope...
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June 6th 2011, 02:30 AM
You might not be physicaly.. but you havnt really experinced what sex is supposed to be like untill you give yourself to someone on purpose cause you want to. I hope your able to do that one day as getting over such a thing can be hard.
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