Raped.. I think.

[xWo0lySheep]

Almost a year ago i had been drinkin with friends, Me and one of them (not a close friend) walked home together as we lived in the same direction. On the way home we sat down. He started kissing me, which i didnt like but went along with because i was drunk, when he tried to go further i struggled and tried to push him off and scream at him to stop but he carried on regardless so after a few minutes i just lay there, then i tried to push him off again and i asked him to stop again, he wouldnt. Im struggling to cope with it but i feel kind of like i dont deserve to be upset, its like its not real rape because i could have done more to stop it.

[Kitty.]

Hey,

I’m sorry that this happened to you. No means no even if you only said it once. You were definitely raped. You tried to stop him multiple times and he wouldn’t stop. You have full right to feel upset of this. I know it’s hard to cope. How are you coping? What tools are you using to cope?

Another thing you should do is report the person who did this. It isn’t too late to report this person and they need to be reported. They also need to be stopped in case they decide to do this again to you or someone else.

Take care,
Kitty.

[Sythan]

It sounds like you were raped, I do feel you need to contact the Police and tell what happened, I am not sure if there is a Statue of Limitation in Ireland for Rape or any other Sex Crime, if there is I'd file a report anyway. When under the influence of drugs or alcohol, it is extremely easy for someone to take advantage of you, please be safe, and I hope everything works out okay for you.

[Tigerrr]

Yes, that is rape. By law if a woman is past a certain point of drunkness, then even if they go along with it, it still counts as rape. The fact that you said no means that it was 100% rape. You did nothing wrong in this situation, and you have every right to be upset. Try talking to one of your close friends about it, it does feel alot when you get it off your chest.

[Gidig]

Hey-

I can relate to how you're feeling. But I hope you know in your heart that this wasn't okay for him to do to you. When we're intoxicated, it's harder to say no and be more forceful. And when someone is violating you so much, at least in my opinion is really scary and you react differently than you'd ever expect to. It's a hard and traumatic experience.

And the way I look like at it, if I emotionally, physically, and mentally (With being intoxicated especially) didn't fight back harder, I probably couldn't have. But no one deserves for that to happen to them. It's a horrible thing to experience, and it's not your fault at all.

Have you ever considered seeing a therapist if you don't already? They can be really helpful, and can know and specialize in things like this. It can be hard to deal with on your own. Friends can help as well or relatives or anyone you trust really. Talking about it helps for sure.

Take care of yourself, I hope you're doing okay.
Maria.

[-maddie-]

im sorry this happened to you. no means no. he should have stoped.