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Positive thinking? - January 4th 2013, 07:38 PM

Since my earliest days, I've always been a pessimist. I had a negative attitude towards almost everything, especially myself. I never saw anything wrong with it before, I just thought of myself as being "realistic", and that it would be worse if I was overly positive.

I've since realised that my negative attitude hasn't helped me in any way. For example, people are generally put off by negativity, so it didn't exactly help with making friends or maintaining friendships I already had.

For this reason, amongst an infinite number of others, I really want to change my negative attitude. I think it will help me if I learn to be more positive about life. So, does anyone have any tips on how I can start thinking positively? I'm not expecting to change completely overnight, but it would be great if I could get some guidelines on how to overcome this problem.
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Re: Positive thinking? - January 4th 2013, 10:59 PM

Well, starting small helps. Pick little things you enjoy, and take time to really enjoy them. For example, I really like burgers. So if I get a burger, I make sure I take the time to really savour all the flavours that combined make up the burger.

And with yourself, you can pick something you like about yourself, and focus on that. Maybe you have really cool eyebrows, or interesting ears, or nice coloured eyes, or shapely calves - I wouldn't know, and it doesn't matter. Just something small, so that when you're feeling negative, you can think to yourself "well I like my . . . . .". For me it's my neck. I have a nicely muscled neck and I think that's cool.

Look at things that make you happy. Live in the moment - appreciate things as they happen, when they happen.
It does take practise, and it does get easier.

If possible, you could investigate seeing a psychologist/counselor who specialises in mindfulness - it's based on a buddhist concept but it's been changed (had the religion taken out of it) and many people finding practising tools from mindfulness helps them maintain a more positive outlook on life.

It's good that you understand you won't be able to change overnight. You can change though, it just takes effort. It's worth it though - more positive people have lower blood pressure because they don't stress as much. And we all know too much stress is bad for us.

Anywho, with the things you like - keep lists, and add to the lists when you think of something new.

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Re: Positive thinking? - January 5th 2013, 09:23 AM

Hey Jess,

Thanks for the advice. I'll look into that mindfulness thingy. It sounds pretty interesting. Anyway, your reply was a huge help, so thanks!

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