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Unhappy Opening Up...I can't do it - January 11th 2010, 09:52 PM

So, I have never been one to "talk" about my feelings or anything like that, I have never really had to do it, so my Pastors wife has been trying to get me to open up to her for awhile now and I just can't, I don't know how to word things that are bothering me and it's really weighing on me now.

There was an "issue" in the Church and with something I had said with an attitude to our youth leader and she called a meeting over it and I got really upset during the meeting (The meeting consisted of Me, Pastor, his wife and our two youth leaders) and I just walked out of it. I want to resolve the issue, but I am having a really hard time talking about it, even though I know I was wrong (which I was). She (Pastors wife) texted me a while after I walked out of the meeting and asked me why I was so upset with her, because during the meeting I started to cry and she tried to hug and I pushed her away and usually I don't. I need some advice as how to say things when I open up, I don't want to come off like a drama queen or like I don't really care about the situation, because I really want to fix this. Any ideas?
   
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Re: Opening Up...I can't do it - January 11th 2010, 10:36 PM

Try writing it on paper. And then, either you can give it as a note, or you can read off of it to talk.
   
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Re: Opening Up...I can't do it - January 12th 2010, 02:31 AM

I can't talk about anything either, its very very rare to see me open up
   
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Re: Opening Up...I can't do it - January 16th 2010, 04:44 AM

open up slowly in small ways first, and move on from there.

let her know how you feel. just tell her your'e not great at expressing yourself and you don't know how to tell her, but you don't want anything to be between you in a bad way.

It took me months, years, to learn to open up to people. The most surprising thing that helped was being around people who were open first. At first it embarrassed me but when i got used to other people doing it i was more ready to be open myself.


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Re: Opening Up...I can't do it - January 18th 2010, 09:59 PM

I used to be a lot worse at opening up than i am now. Its still really tough and i have an extremely hard time verbalizing feelings but i have gotten to the point where i can write out how im feeling and/or what i want to say. So my advice to you is the same as ArcAngels, try writing it out. It will feel weird at first but give it a chance.

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