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Does anyone else find mental health workings really patronizing? - November 30th 2010, 03:47 PM

I actually quite like my mental health nurse and my therapist but damn, they can be patronizing I don't think they realise I know more about mental health than they think I do :/ I knew what cognitive behavioral therapy was before they even brought it up. They just act really shocked when I say something they were already going to tell me. They just seem to talk to me like I'm completely insane and will snap at any moment (mostly my mental health nurse more than my therapist) They also talk down to me a lot :/ Being patronized REALLY annoys me. It takes a lot of self-control not to be sarcastic towards them. They are helpful but I wish they wouldn't talk to me like that. I don't want to bring this up in case I sound rude but it annoys me.


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Re: Does anyone else find mental health workings really patronizing? - November 30th 2010, 04:15 PM

If it bugs you that much, you should tell them, they've probably heard it before and they may not realize they're doing it. It could also be the way they're trained to do their job.


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Re: Does anyone else find mental health workings really patronizing? - November 30th 2010, 08:53 PM

I don't think they're doing it on purpose I just don't know the nicest way to say "stop talking down to me"


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Re: Does anyone else find mental health workings really patronizing? - December 2nd 2010, 12:59 AM

I think it's a fairly common issue. My therapist actually wants me to tell her if she says something that annoys me or that sounds patronizing because she wants me to speak up for myself. I don't think there's anything wrong with telling them how you feel, because you aren't going to offend them - they get a lot worse! If you discuss it in a nice way, and they're able to change the way they talk to you then you might actually find them more helpful.
   
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Re: Does anyone else find mental health workings really patronizing? - December 5th 2010, 01:49 AM

I know what you mean sometimes mine do the same thing they they dont understand what Im trying to tell them and say no but this is better its like I think I know myself.
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Re: Does anyone else find mental health workings really patronizing? - December 5th 2010, 03:38 AM

I had that when I was getting therapy (no longer am since a few years) and I think it's them trying to be very nice and understanding. Almost all forms of psychotherapy involve the therapist or clinician being nice, giving positive feedback, etc... . There's only 1 type I know of that doesn't involve that, where the therapist is encouraged to make somewhat cruel jokes at the patient for this very reason: to have the patient feel less patronized and more as if it was casual, one-to-one talk where it's easier to know each other. Amazingly, it does work very well and I believe it is part of DBT for borderline personality disorder but not all therapists do that part.


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Re: Does anyone else find mental health workings really patronizing? - December 6th 2010, 08:03 PM

I found my mental health nurse annoying sometimes or patronizing. Some of the things she said to me as well were just daft and obviously not true....I didn't bother much with her though when I had my other workers andshe was nice most of the time as well sooooooo that made up for the completely idiotic comments


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