sleep issues( My embarassing secret)

[RandyOrtonFan4Life]

I' m not sure if this is part of mental health or not. but sometimes I feel scared to go to sleep at night, and I don't know why. I get this paranoid feeling every couple of nights to go to sleep and its occurs when my fiance' is at work. This has nothing to do with my fiance' at all, because I've been doing this before I met him, and the problem has occured while he is home with me, as well.



I will go for months without being scared to sleep at night and then it will happen for a couple of nights and then it will happen for weeks at a times and then i will go awhile again with it only happening once or twice, and then eventually I will go back to being able to sleep without a problem at all. Its been a wierd part of my life since around 2007.


Before 2007 I've never been like this. It even makes me become afraid of the dark, like walking in pitch black darkness,which is embarassing to admit. Other times, when this sleep problem isn't an issue, I'm not afraid of the pitch black darkness at all. When my sleep issue is trying to occure and my fiance' is not working I manage because I feel secure with him.

The way I managed it before I met him, is that I kept my door open and my curtains closed. My mom's room is just beside my old room. All up to about two months ago my mom made me and my fiance' sleep in seperate rooms and he has been living here for almost two years, and now we sleep in the same room, which is an extra built on room we had built years before me and him met.


No one knows this secret about me at all, and I'm so confused on why I've had this issue for the last few years. I've never had any house intruders,have never been raped, or anything to scar my life really bad at all. I'm not understanding why this scared paranoid feeling that keeps me awake like this at all. Sometimes, it occurs after I read or watch something that creeps me out. Like for instant, tonight I just read a suicide note that a wwe wrestler had posted on youtube, and all the news behind that. That was at 9pm and now its 2:00a.m. where I live. It gave me the creeps,(even though the note could be possibly is fake) and other times I can read or watch something creepy and fall asleep fine.


I've never had a problem with scary movies and being scarred to fall asleep.Its mainly things I read or watch that occurs in real life whether, its fake rumor, true things such as deaths of someone I like,something I see on tv, internet etc. I try to avoid "creepy" things when I'm feeling this way, but I was just looking up wrestling news and it caught my attention. A lot of the times, I don't read or watch "creepy" things that may bother me and still I get scared to fall asleep. So it goes both ways, I would still have this problem whether I read that story or watch a video on youtube of someone who died, or whatever it may be that "creeped" me out, it just makes the problem worse at times, but rarely will I make the big mistake of doing this when my sleep issues start.One of the biggest mistakes I've ever made was when amy winehouse died, I listened to her music, and couldn't sleep at all that night and I wasn't having sleep issues at that time, until I made the slight stupid mistake to listening to her music before bed, If I chose to listen to it during the day, I may have been able to sleep fine. What can possibly be wrong?

[Soliloquy]

Hi Tiffany,

I'm sorry that you're having sleeping troubles. If it makes you feel any better, I have a similar issue at times, and I think this is common among a lot of other people as well. I know that sometimes it can make you feel very alone, but it's important to understand that you're not. And if I'm perfectly honest, walking around in the dark creeps me out, even when I'm not having sleeping trouble!

It's understandable that you might be finding this issue harder to manage without your fiancé around. Having someone you trust in the same room as you at night can definitely make things quite a bit easier. This is why it's so common for nervous children to go climb into their parents' beds at night. Remember that you don't have to have had anything traumatic happen to you in order for this to be a problem. A lot of people find that things look a lot worse at night. Not only is it visibly darker out, which creates an ominous atmosphere, but we also have time to think and dwell on things that we pushed to the back of our minds during the day. I know that my anxiety loves to stop by at night!

Sometimes it is not that easy to put on a finger on what it is you're worried about. I think that fears related to everyday life can often manifest themselves as seemingly-unrelated worries, such as a fear of the dark or increased paranoia at night. Increased stress can also make us more vulnerable to succumb to little things that we usually just view as annoyances. We're more sensitive all-around.

When these sleep issues occur, do you find that you've had a lot on your plate? Are you feeling a little stressed out? Even if they don't seem related at a first glance, list the the things that are possibly making you more anxious and explore them. You might find, surprisingly enough, that they are indeed contributing to what you're feeling.

This isn't anything to be ashamed of. I know it may be difficult for you to talk about, but if you can, maybe you want to try speaking to your fiancé. You could try talking to him on the phone before bed, or he could leave you a handwritten note to read when he's away. Also, I know that listening to relaxing music before bed has helped me get to sleep when I'm feeling scared. Maybe you want to bring a particularly comforting blanket or even a stuffed animal to bed with you. Anything to help you feel more secure.

I hope this helps! Take care!