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Exclamation Trying to help my friend. PLEASE respond - May 7th 2012, 01:36 AM

So I have a friend who smokes cigarettes. His family does also which prob makes it hard. He says that when he is a dad he wants to stop so his kids aren't exposed to that. The thing is he has an adopted daughter and well I'm worried about her being in the house with all that smoke (I have family who have dies way too young cuz of second hand smoke). I'm wondering if there's any way I can motivate/help him stop smoking. I'm really worried and care about him a lot. I don't want him or his daughter to get hurt. He is also currently trying to stop self harm (as am I) so I'm not sure if it would both be too much to try to stop at once. If he needs to choose which would be best to work on first? Please I'm worried about him and need some advice on what to do. And no he won't tell his parents about self harm so I think that's out of the questio. Thanks for caring enough to read this whole post. Please please respond so he can be helped. Thanks again in advance

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Re: Trying to help my friend. PLEASE respond - May 7th 2012, 11:28 AM

Some people smoke because psychologically it's a coping mechanism, for them.

I understand your concern, as smoking is highly addictive and very difficult to quit, even when you want to. I would express your concern to him, highlight the dangers, but more so than that, suggest he gets a therapist to speak to about his SI and difficult situation with family issues. If he has that outlet, perhaps he won't reach as much for the cigarettes.

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Re: Trying to help my friend. PLEASE respond - May 12th 2012, 05:14 AM

I think you should try and encourage him to see a counsellor, or someone to talk to about his self harm, and maybe contact someone about quitting smoking. It would probably be better to focus on one thing at a time, but that is a pretty hard choice, so maybe he should try and kill two birds with one stone? Going and seeing a counsellor about his self harm would be a good start, and maybe he should try an alternative to smoking, like nicotine patches or gum, that might help.

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