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My best friend... - July 19th 2012, 08:59 PM

Something happened to her recently, and I know just some bits of it. We're internet friends, so I don't know her personally and never met her in real life. She said some things, that has me coming to two conclusions. Today she deactivated her Facebook account, and I just caught a glimpse of her last status message before it went away.

Those two conclusions are either threatening to kill someone or herself. Either way, I'll still support and love her. Though, I prefer that she'd said she was gonna kill herself. But if she said she was gonna kill someone else, well... That happens, right? And 98% of the time, we don't actually murder someone when we say it.

How can I get through to her? I don't want to lose her. She means the world and more to me.
   
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Re: My best friend... - July 19th 2012, 09:49 PM

You can try to give her advice and talk to her until your face turns blue and it wont matter much. Your best bet is to just be there for her. Verbally tell her you will be there for her (via email, text, phone, etc), and that you care about her. Other than that, you really don't have many choices, and I wouldn't recommend trying to force her to talk to you about things because thats how friendships usually develop problems or end up coming to an end (which we don't want to happen). So offer support, SHOW that you are there to listen and that you do care, and leave the rest up to her.


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Re: My best friend... - July 21st 2012, 02:24 PM

Thank you Chris, I've been trying to do that. She's not saying much, but I'm going to give her time.
   
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Re: My best friend... - July 21st 2012, 06:12 PM

no advice really. just wanted to say your friend is lucky to have you in their life. good luck with everything and just keep being you. i think you're already doing the best you can.
   
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Re: My best friend... - July 22nd 2012, 10:07 PM

Hey there, I also have a friend who threatened to kill herself too, but she never did. Anyways, since you said that she is your best friend, you can possibly contact her in some other way, such as phone, email, text message?
   
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Re: My best friend... - July 23rd 2012, 02:39 AM

You are such a wonderful caring person just contact him/her in every way you can and let them know that they mean a lot to you. tell them how you feel and dont be afraid to show little aggression like "do NOT kill yourself, it will be the biggest mistake you ever make" or same thing with killing someone else. Just make sure they know you love them.
   
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