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Unhappy Need advice - August 19th 2012, 04:46 AM

I was just wondering if someone could help or give advice about a friend problem. I use to be best friends with this guy , we went through alot together and he even stopped me from suicide atleast five times. Then about 2 years of being friends we decided to date.
We were off and on for almost a year when one day I couldn't handle him picking fights with me over silly things, so i started dating someone else while still trying to be friends with him. That didn't work out because he got overly jealous and felt i would always pick another guy over him, so we stopped talkIng for months.
About 5months ago I tried to mend things between us but he then mentioned he dated one of my good friends that I didn't stay in touch with. Again we stopped talking and now I've tried messaging him after I saw him at his work but h ignores them. All I want is my best friend back. I miss him more then anything and i still love him no matter what happens. I need someone's advice because I have literally no friends that will help me with this so any advice would help!
   
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Re: Need advice - August 19th 2012, 08:19 AM

You hurt him.

Sounds pretty bad huh? Well thats what this all comes down too. You built a friendship up, increased it into a relationship, decreased it into a friendship, then into nothing, then you increased into friendship, then decreased to nothing, and now you are trying to increase into a friendship again. See how this is a roller coaster? See how things didn't turn out in a positive manner? The problem is you played with him so much, stopped talking to him, took him on a roller coaster so much that hes fed up and feels best that a friendship isn't a good choice anymore (which you should respect).

I often see situations like this; and people fail to realize that most people you date can not be turned into friends. Why? Because theres always someone who has feelings for the other, theres always someone who gets jealous; theres always some sort of conflict. It simply just doesn't work out. If you want my honest advice, I say move on. Make new friends, and gain new experiences; don't keep trying to make your past into your future; create your future from scratch. You'll be much better off.


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Re: Need advice - August 19th 2012, 01:58 PM

Aw, I am really sorry your going through allot of pain and hurt. If he wont reply to your messages then you can try and catch up with him in person and tell him how you feel but you have to promise and really mean it that you wont date anyone else when you have little fights with him if that doesn't work then you have to move on i'm sorry.
   
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Re: Need advice - August 20th 2012, 02:17 AM

Yeah I know I hurt him and I feel terriable about it. This year he's going to be switching into my school so I'm hoping we will have the chance to speak face to face with eachother. And if he isn't up for it then I'll move on. But how should I approach him with this in person? Thanks for your help
   
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Re: Need advice - August 20th 2012, 09:24 AM

Approach him in break times. Somewhere when your out of class because you have lessons.
   
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