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Unhappy I don't like the way my stepfather treats my mother - July 2nd 2013, 05:25 AM

My mother's husband is not abusive, but he often acts in a sexist way and it's hard to see a woman whom I look up to and love so much treated in such a degrading way. Whenever he see's her, he'll slap her ass and kiss her in a pretty explicit way. I know that doesn't sound bad, but for some reason I am filled with disgust and anger when I see this. My mother and him work the same amount of hours at equally tasking jobs, and, yet, my mother does all the cleaning while he sits watching TV. Whenever he asks her to do things for him, like get him a beer or make him something to eat, he'll say to me "She's such a good girl." He'll use this voice, and it makes me so upset I literally have to leave the room. I know this probably sounds pathetic, but for some reason it bothers me more than anything has in a long time.
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Re: I don't like the way my stepfather treats my mother - July 5th 2013, 02:54 AM

Hey there,

Maybe one day you could sit down with your mom and have an honest discussion with her about how you feel. You can say that you're glad she's found someone that she's happy with, but you really look up to her and feel concerned by some of the ways he treats her. You can even mention why that is. You can let her know that you're not trying to control how he treats her but it upsets you to know that sometimes he is explicit with her around other people or makes her do all the cleaning. At least if you have your feelings out, she can share her side of things and even give you a bit of comfort.

You're right though that it does seem a bit degrading that he'll be explicit with her in front of other people, but maybe if it gets too bad you can continue to try and leave the room to avoid having to see it for very long.

I hope things improve!

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