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Unhappy July 16th 2013, 03:30 PM

i live whith my mum i was about 2 my mum left my dad and (i think he might of bin abuseive bit i dont now ) and the past year and a half my dad maneged to contact me over facebook he seemed nice but i never replied to his messages because i thaught he might be dangerouse so i blocked him and today i unblocked him and thaught about replying to his messages so i typed out a message but then i dicided to not send it bit then by mistaked i pressed enter witch sent the message to him my message said


thanks for writing to me sorry that i havent bin replying i dont go on facebook much and i didnt know what to say but thanks a lot for keeping in touch it means a lot.

so my quastion is how do i tell my mum that i accidently sent this message and that he is contacting me? please help and thanks for reading

i feal stupid scared and i feal like im gonna puke and i cant delete my fb message that i sent him and i dont wanna tell my mum

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July 16th 2013, 05:12 PM

i calmed down now.

i feal depressed for not replying to his messages earlyier i know that he has bin trying to contact me for years..

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Re: first time contacting my dad.please read? im scared! :( and im a idoit - July 17th 2013, 09:44 PM

Did you end up telling your mum about you contacting your dad? Did everything go well after he replied to your message?

Please don't feel depressed. It's better late than to never contact him and then regret it later on in life. It's a really big step and a very independent move to go out of your way to contacting you dad! Think how much you'll achieve now you chose to do this and without any help from anyone else! If I were in that position I doubt I'd have had the courage. What you've done is an accomplishment!


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Re: first time contacting my dad.please read? im scared! :( and im a idoit - July 21st 2013, 05:08 PM

If your father is a decent man, then he will understand why you didn't contact him sooner. He has essentially been a stranger to you, so why would you rush into his arms? You needed time to process everything and weigh the pros/cons. If your father isn't understanding of all that, then maybe he's not really worth talking to.

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Re: first time contacting my dad.please read? im scared! :( and im a idoit - July 30th 2013, 05:19 AM

its understandable your scared, my advice since having divorced parents, is wait to inform your mom, sometimes if divorces end badly she'll tell you things about your father that may be exaggerated or twisted, to get you totake her side and not his. this may not be the case but either way talk to him first, get to know him, find out his side about the divorce, the fact that he contacted you is a big brave step for him, and the fact he didnt back down after years shows he really wants to get to know you, so try not to shun him too harshly for not being there those years before, good luck, and try to keep an open unbiased mind!
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