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Cant deal with this anymore - October 25th 2013, 06:23 PM

Its really not helpping my mental state




This has been happening for ages its annoying me like anything



My mum seems it hate wheni say something good about nan and grandad



Like i told nan shes the least annoying because she keeps her mouth shut and don't moan at me (joke)


And mum dosnt like none of this


For example if im getting grandad to do a job for me because hes in town and he might aswell do it


She feels like i should ask her?





Ill move on today
And the day was going average


Mum popped out shopping and left me home alone
She comes back everything is fine we start talking which is normal

I tell her im going out on saturday to see nan and grandad because there getting older and i better make the most of them right?


Ill catch the train tomorrow and go meet grandad and stay at his house till monday and then mum will pick me up on monday because she comes up tht way on mondays



Anyway i go back to my bed to continue sitting on my bed

Mum says ohhh i suppose you will get a break then

Me a break from what

Mum me moaning


Me haha your been good today (joke)


Anyway im gonna cut this short


The problem is she thinks all the time she has to be better then nan and grandad all the fucking time seriously



Then she goes down stairs and solks snd gets upset yhis is seriously attention seeking


To make feel bad


The thing is im SLIGHTY coping mentally something like this wont help its not my main problem


The same thing happens with my brothers wife


I will admit my brothers wife really hurt mum mentally 6years ago


But im friendly with her shes nice and i cant say nothing good about her


But still

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Re: Cant deal with this anymore - October 26th 2013, 05:48 AM

Hey there.

I'm not a psychologist, and maybe Robin (PSY) would be more qualified/educated to talk on this, but I would say that I think your mom is looking to mean something to someone. You may say: "I love her, and she means alot to me!", and that may be 100% true, but my guess is she doesn't always see it that way. It seems like you have a great connection and relationship with your nan and granddad, and maybe you even look up to them in certain ways. I think your mother sees that, and wants to be that in your life (which is very common with parents). She wants to be a bigger part of your life, and her way of doing that is through making you feel bad, making herself feel bad so that you feel bad for her, or to guilt-trip you in certain situations. She may not even be doing all this on purpose; but nonetheless, it seems like she is doing it.

What can you do? Well, this is the hard part. You shouldn't have to give up time with your nan and granddad, so keep hanging out with them and cherish the time you have with them. On the other hand, maybe establishing a movie night, or a night where you and your mom can hangout would benefit your relationship with her. A nice night with your mom will not only make her feel better about everything, but in turn it will also make you feel better.


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