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Exclamation In shock - December 3rd 2013, 01:10 PM

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I don't even know what to do I found out my parents are getting a divorce after 20 years of marriage. My dad abused my boyfriends older brother when my dad was 20 something and the kid was 9ish 10ish. My dad is probably going to jail I'm just in shock I don't know what to do I feel so depressed and so many emotions al at once I can't handle this. Please help. PM me if you want to know more


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Re: In shock - December 3rd 2013, 06:51 PM

Hey there, Chantelle!

It sounds like alot of things are going wrong right now - and I'm sorry to hear about that. In regards to your father's situation, you can't really change what is going to happen. Just understand the following:
-He made the choice to hurt someone else; and ultimately needs to pay the price for it. Abuse is not something to take lightly. And if he did abuse someone in some way, then that's a situation that needs to get dealt with quickly.
-You're not responsible for the marriage. Unfortunately sometimes you love someone for days, weeks, months, or even years, but then the love begins to fade. Or sometimes, you fool yourself into thinking you love that person, and realize you don't. Whatever be the case, the point is they obviously no longer care or love for each other, and they feel it best to be separated.

The river of emotions you're experiencing with all this change, and unfortunately situations/issues are most definitely normal. Now the real question is how are you dealing with these emotions? Sure, you can't change the issues/situations much, but you can change how you handle your feelings and emotions. My recommendation is continue to blog, write in a journal, create some art, go workout (e.g., running, walking, stretching, yoga, etc), learn to play an instrument, meditate or continue with religious activities, etc. All these things may allow you to clear your mind, and release your stored up emotions/feelings which in turn will create (and maintain) a better and healthier environment for yourself.


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Re: In shock - December 10th 2013, 01:03 PM

Found out Friday he abused my little brother too my little brother told me Friday morning how could someone do that to there own kid when they are supposed to protect them


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