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My Cousin - December 31st 2013, 12:49 PM

Ok I didn’t know where to put this or even how to go about it…

Basically I was at my cousins house a few weeks ago. I didn’t think much about it then because he’s my cousin but he came on to me he tried to kiss me I just sorta moved away and ignored it. Then I thought nothing else of it until the yesterday he texted me saying, do I want to come over. I said no I’m ill and he replied why did I do something wrong then a few minutes later her said or not enough of something…

It’s creped me out a little because he is my cousin and I am not attracted to him in anyway. I’m not going to lie I have has feeling for my second cousin but I didn’t grow up with him I meet him when I was older it was more like close friend then attraction. So I do understand how he feels but even if he wasn’t my cousin I wouldn’t think of him that way. I grow up with him he as always been my cousin. Even tough I understand where he is coming from I would never do anything about it because he is family and its wrong. I just don’t know how to deal with it in the right way, he’s family but I don’t like the way he is acting. Any advice would be great.


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Re: My Cousin - January 1st 2014, 02:31 AM

How would you deal with a friend, if they made unwelcome advances? If I were in your situation and dealing with a friend (or cousin), I'd probably say something along the lines of, "I'm sorry, but I'm not interested, and if you continue to act this way toward me, I'll have no choice but to cease contact until you can control yourself." You HAVE to be firm with people like your cousin... otherwise, your silence may be seen as an invitation to proceed, or may be received as a mixed signal (which could eventually be seen as an invitation to proceed). I can understand why you wouldn't want to tell anyone else about this, and there's a good chance you'll be able to resolve the issue without having to tell anyone else. If your cousin becomes aggressive, though, then you may need to tell one or more trusted family members in order to ensure you remain safe during family gatherings.






   
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