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Exclamation Violence HELP ME! - January 29th 2014, 11:53 PM

dad got mad, screamed at my puppy im pissed off at dad hes being an ass :real mad:
   
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Re: Violence HELP ME! - January 29th 2014, 11:58 PM

From what you've said this doesn't seem too much like violence. Sometimes, with new puppies, it can be a little annoying for most people. They can be very hard to deal with and be very tedious.

It's not good that he shouted at the puppy, though. Maybe you could talk to him when he's calmed down (or your mother or a sibling) and ask him not to get mad at the puppy again, because he's only a puppy.

I wouldn't let this get to you too much, just make sure the puppy is okay.
   
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Re: Violence HELP ME! - January 30th 2014, 02:09 AM

I agree with Taylala here. While shouting at your puppy definitely wasn't a good thing to do, it's not necessarily violence. I also agree that you should talk to either him or your mom and suggest other ways to deal with it if your puppy does something "bad." Maybe after a bit of discussion your family will be able to come up with better ways to make sure the dog learns better behavior so it doesn't get yelled at again, and then all of you can pitch in in training the dog (housebreaking and anything else needed) so you won't have to worry anymore.


   
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Re: Violence HELP ME! - February 1st 2014, 10:51 PM

Hey there.

I agree with what the above posts have said. I wouldn't classify this as violence. I too, have had several puppy's, and sometimes they prove to be way to much for me to handle and deal with at that particular time.

However I do agree that you should bring it up to your dad (and family as a whole), but I also think you should watch what you say. So maybe saying something like this will prevent additional arguments from breaking out: "Hey, I'm willing to train and care for the puppy, but it does take some time so please understand that". Saying something similar to that lets them know that you're willing to be an adult by taking care of the puppy, and it makes him aware that it will take time for the puppy to be fully trained.

I hope that things improve soon.


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Re: Violence HELP ME! - February 2nd 2014, 02:46 AM

While a puppy can be overwhelming, yelling at the puppy is certainly not good as dogs have very sensitive hearing and can get frightened by loud sounds (especially when they're young).

I agree with the suggestion of talking to your dad and the rest of your family about it. Hopefully if you explain to him why this is wrong he won't do it again (some people, for some reason, don't really think about this stuff) and hopefully you'll all find a positive way of sharing the work load of training the puppy and keeping it under control.

Negative reinforcement (shouting, physical punishments) aren't a good way to train dogs effectively. It doesn't work well and when it does anything, it just makes your dog nervous and can even make your dog more prone to being violent or stressed later on. Also, unless whatever you're angry that your dog did has just happened, he won't even understand very well why you're angry with him all of a sudden, since every minute is pretty much an eternity for a dog.

Positive reinforcement like giving your dog a treat or petting them when they do something right is the way to go.
   
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