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My mom takes too many photos of me :( - March 20th 2014, 12:19 AM

Yeah, so my mom takes too many photos of me...in fact she takes too many photos of everything. I always tell her that one photo of myself is enough, but then she says that it is none of my business how many photos she wants to take.

Then I get really annoyed. And when I do, she gets mad and talks about how rude I act. She sometimes talks about how it would be better if she had a daughter instead.

You know, my mom is cool and all, but I just don't understand many things about her... :/


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Re: My mom takes too many photos of me :( - March 20th 2014, 09:02 PM

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Family or not, if you're uncomfortable with someone taking photos of you, they shouldn't be doing it. Period. She can take as many photos as she wants - but when they're of you, they become your business.
She also shouldn't be so rude to you. Telling you she wishes she had a daughter instead really isn't okay.
I don't mean to imply that you are rude to her, but in the future, try to argue constructively - "I feel, I think," instead of "You make me feel/think," that way she has no reason to get defensive, or to say that you're attacking her, for example. I understand it's difficult to be polite to someone who's angering you, but if you are calm and constructive, she has no reason to tell you you're being rude.
If she really makes you feel uncomfortable, or says unnecessary hurtful things to you, I would look into telling someone, because a mother should never say things like that to a child.

I hope I've helped somewhat, and that this works out for you soon Take care.
   
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Re: My mom takes too many photos of me :( - March 20th 2014, 11:15 PM

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Family or not, if you're uncomfortable with someone taking photos of you, they shouldn't be doing it. Period. She can take as many photos as she wants - but when they're of you, they become your business.
She also shouldn't be so rude to you. Telling you she wishes she had a daughter instead really isn't okay.
I don't mean to imply that you are rude to her, but in the future, try to argue constructively - "I feel, I think," instead of "You make me feel/think," that way she has no reason to get defensive, or to say that you're attacking her, for example. I understand it's difficult to be polite to someone who's angering you, but if you are calm and constructive, she has no reason to tell you you're being rude.
If she really makes you feel uncomfortable, or says unnecessary hurtful things to you, I would look into telling someone, because a mother should never say things like that to a child.

I hope I've helped somewhat, and that this works out for you soon Take care.
Thanks for the reply. I feel kinda guilty for acting rude to her honestly...she is pretty stressed out lately.


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Re: My mom takes too many photos of me :( - March 21st 2014, 12:56 AM

Have you asked your mum why she keeps taking pictures of you? Maybe there's a good reason behind it and it'd be a good idea to find out why. That way if there's a good reason for it, it may help you to understand why she does it so much and help resolve this difference between the two of you.


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Re: My mom takes too many photos of me :( - March 21st 2014, 06:58 PM

If you're not comfortable with it, I think you should talk to her. Tell her how it makes you feel uncomfortable and make her understand that there's a reason behind it. You shouldn't have to be in pictures when you don't want to be! Ask her politely if she can take pictures of other things instead. I'm sure a simple conversation can go a lot further than you think! If even after the talk she doesn't get it, simply refuse to pose in pictures for her or just walk away every time she gets a camera at you. If she calls you rude for it, then you should explain to her that it's rude of her to not respect your opinion (in a polite way of course). Best of luck.
   
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Re: My mom takes too many photos of me :( - March 21st 2014, 09:15 PM

If you don't like pictures being taken of you then you have a right to tell your mom that you don't want the pictures taken. It is your business on how many pictures she is taking of you since it involves you. I would sit down with your mom and explain that you don't like pictures being taken of you and when she does take them it makes you mad or annoyed then you take it out on her. Hopefully she will listen to you and stop taking the pictures


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Re: My mom takes too many photos of me :( - March 22nd 2014, 06:04 PM

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Have you asked your mum why she keeps taking pictures of you? Maybe there's a good reason behind it and it'd be a good idea to find out why. That way if there's a good reason for it, it may help you to understand why she does it so much and help resolve this difference between the two of you.
I second this statement. Your mom could be taking lots of pictures because she wants to remember what you looked like at different stages of your life. She may want to cherish the memories of you growing up by looking at photos of you many years from now. Perhaps her own parents didn't take many photos of her and she regrets not being able to see what SHE looked like at different stages of her life, so she's trying to ensure you don't feel bad when you're an adult and want to look at old photos of yourself.

The fact that your mom takes lots of photos of different things could indicate that she relies heavily on images to recall fond memories, to find inspiration for goals/projects, etc. It doesn't sound like she's trying to make you uncomfortable, but I can also understand why you would feel uncomfortable. Just approach her in a calm manner and see what she has to say. Try to understand where she's coming from, and in return, she'll probably be more willing to understand where you're coming from. Then a compromise can be reached. =)






   
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