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Exclamation My Dad Hit Me With The Door - May 4th 2014, 08:17 PM

My dad hit me with the door and now I am cutting my arm. I plan on running away or killing myself.


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Re: My Dad Hit Me With The Door - May 4th 2014, 11:58 PM

Hey there,

First of all, I want to say that if this was intentional and your father is being abusive to you, you should report it. Claims of abuse are taken very seriously and your father will be investigated for it. Tell an adult like a teacher, guidance counselor, administrator, coach or club advisor, a doctor, or the police, for example. If you tell someone who isn't the police, the people I mentioned are mandatory reporters, meaning that if they hear that you are being abused, they will have to report it to the proper authorities. Document any evidence you may have too to help your case. For example, if you have any marks or bruises, take photos. Write down anything mean he may say to you and what date/time he said it, so you have that evidence. Your voice deserves to be heard and there are people out there that would like to help you and keep you safe, if you let them.

The people I mentioned above can also help you cope with everything else that is going on, such as the self harm and suicidal thoughts, and the thoughts you have of running away. You don't deserve to go through this alone.

This is a link to a list of hotlines you can call as well and they can help you work through everything.

The things you mentioned doing in order to help really WON'T help you. Will cutting yourself help you with anything that is going on? No. Instead, it just adds more problems such as the risk of infection and people finding out. Your problems come back because you aren't really doing anything (such as reporting any abuse) to solve them. This is a link of alternatives to self harm. They're healthier, safer ways to cope.

Suicide isn't the answer either. The bad won't last forever. Sure it takes time and effort, but things will get better. By committing suicide, you would be denying yourself of any chance for it to get better, and it WILL. You have things to do and places to go, people to meet and goals to complete. Don't give that all up now, because you will be able to get out of your current living situation and get to a better place in life, stronger for it. You'll be able to say "I got through." This contains a list of reasons to live. Sometimes you have to live for the small things and let them build up, because your big thing is coming.

Before running away, you also have to consider runaway laws. In some states it's illegal to run away and in others it's illegal for someone to take in a runaway, but even if it's not, if your parents call the authorities, they can find you and have you brought back. You'd still have to go to school. You'd have to find shelter after running away, as well as money to purchase food and other necessities. Since you're eleven, that may be very difficult for you to do since you'd be unable to get a job. In the end, it may be very hard for you to sustain yourself if you run away. That's why it's probably best just to get help to stop the bad things from continuing.

Also find ways to express yourself such as writing, art, or music. Exercise is another good way to get out pent up emotions. At least then they won't be building up as much. Maybe find ways to take care of yourself and relax, such as by taking a warm bath or shower then curling up with a good book or movie, doing a hobby, painting your nails, or eating your favorite goodies. You deserve that.

I'm really sorry to hear about everything that is going on, but you CAN get through this and the situation can improve. Keep your head held high, stay strong, and keep fighting. The fight is so worth it.

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Re: My Dad Hit Me With The Door - May 5th 2014, 12:51 AM

Hey .

My name is Hamed Khatiz and I am a student from Sydney . I am also a Law student and I did a quick Google search of the runaway laws Dez was talking about and the law is, anyone under Texas Law, who is under eighteen who runs away from home and is caught will be asked to return home and escorted back home. They are also hit with a Class-A Misdemeanor charge, which I don't necessary agree with, but that's the law.

However, if you are found and the police ask you why you ran away (which they will), you have the right to tell them the scenario and seek protection from your father if you think he is a risk of hurting you once you return home. They have an obligation to investigate it as well.

Because you are so young, a lot of resources are going to be put into finding you if you run away and a lot of people will be hurt by your suicide if you choose to go down that road. We have a special forum for people with issues of self-harm and such thoughts, and I shall link you below .

www.teenhelp.org/forums/f12-self-harm/

In most cases, we have a legal obligation to keep your thread confidential if you tell us anything. One of the best things you can do is to write into the forum and speak to some of the members there which might be able to help you. If you want to keep the scenario even further private you can go to HelpLink, a password protected email support service here.

www.teenhelp.org/HelpLink.

Now he thing is, your father has no right to hurt you and if you feel he is a risk, please tell someone responsible about it . You have rights as well . But the things I recommend are contacting people here and talking about your feelings and also telling someone about any assault.

You're very young and you really don't deserve this, please remember that there is help out there without taking the ultimate decision.


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