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Thumbs down My mothers unrealist expectation of my boyfriend an I's Money. - May 10th 2009, 06:41 AM

I normally don't post on websites about my problems,but this problem is to the point where if I don't let it out I will never stop being angry.

I'm going to let you know a little bit about me before I get into my problem/ rant. My name is Isabella Thurman and I live with my Boyfriend of 6 years in his home state of Wisconsin. My pahrents live 9 hours away from us in Missouri. Now on to my problematic rant.

My problem began two weeks ago when my mother an I were talking about how much vacation time both of us would be getting. We both get about two weeks of vacation,and were wondering how all of us could get together to spend time. As we were trying to figure this out my mom suggested that we all go to see my grandfather in Texas.

Of course I have mixed feelings about going to see him since I don't know him that well. I haven't seen my grandfather since I was seven years old.The last memory I have of him isn't all that pleasant . To be a bigger person I decided to put that behind me and decided that I'd take her up on going to see my grandfather.

That is until I heard her unrealistic way of how We were to go. She wanted Me and my boyfriend to fly from Wisconsin to Missouri and then from there to Texas with her,and my father. I told her that we couldn't afford tickets at this time since we have a lot of other expenses to pay for.

She proceeds to tell me that I have the money I just don't want to spend it on anything that isn't for me,or my selfishness. I don't consider myself to be selfish just because I won't get into my Emergency fund to get Us tickets to see a man I hardly know. Am I wrong in telling her this?

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Re: My mothers unrealist expectation of my boyfriend an I's Money. - May 10th 2009, 01:50 PM


No, you are not in the wrong by not wanting to tap into your emergency funds. Your mum should respect that you and your boyfriend do not have unlimited amounts of money and there's only so much you can do. You're her daughter, she shouldn't push you into doing something that isn't reasonable right now.

I'd say to try talking with her about this again, explain to her that no, you don't have the money to pay for the tickets right now and see if you can work out some sort of compromise - maybe her and your dad fly to you, and then down to Texas, or something like that.

Something else you might want to try, would it be possible to speak with your dad about this and see if he can help your mum to see reason? She might be more likely to listen to him. Either way, it's worth a shot, right?

Hope things work out, take care of yourself.

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