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My Mom's Boyfriend. - May 12th 2009, 01:16 AM

My mom's boyfriend is making me so angry. He's always calling me names. And telling me that everythings my fault. The real issue is my mom sees him doing this and she DOES nothing. She agrees with him must of the time! I don't get that. I mean she's a good person when he's not around. See he's not around that often but when he is it's seriously like the worse thing ever! Can you give me some advise. Please and Thanks!


   
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Re: My Mom's Boyfriend. - May 12th 2009, 02:10 AM

Just have a talk with youre mom and explain to her in words how u feel. if it gets really bad then make her choose between u or him. she shouldnt choose a guy over u because thats wht it seems like shes doing.
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Re: My Mom's Boyfriend. - May 12th 2009, 04:16 AM

I'm going to move this to Friends & Family as I think it's better suited there than Rape & Abuse, if any other mods disagree feel free to move back / the appropriate forum.



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Re: My Mom's Boyfriend. - May 12th 2009, 11:37 AM

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Have talked to her! My therapist and counselor have talked to her. Nothing is working. I can't her choose since I'm still a kid. And the worst part is, is that he treats her like he treats me; calling us names, yelling, making us cry!


   
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Re: My Mom's Boyfriend. - May 12th 2009, 09:39 PM

Hi Megan,

If your mom's boyfriend is being verbally abusive to you, then you have every right to tell him to stop and that what he's doing is inappropriate. He should not be speaking to either you or your mom that way.

I would also suggest you avoid him as much as possible. Don't put yourself in a position where he can abuse you. Get out of the house and spend time with a friend or family member if you can. If he wont stop saying those things, then get yourself out of the situation, even if you need to physically go somewhere else.

Still tell your mom not to put up with this, and continue to get your therapist and counselor to talk with her about it. Make the complaint constant so that she can't ignore it no matter what. Are any of her friends or family aware of this as well? If they are (and I suggest this only if they are) then maybe you could get them to talk to her about it and let her know that she doesn't need to put up with it. She is not in a healthy relationship for herself and you.

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Re: My Mom's Boyfriend. - May 13th 2009, 01:15 AM

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Hi Megan,

If your mom's boyfriend is being verbally abusive to you, then you have every right to tell him to stop and that what he's doing is inappropriate. He should not be speaking to either you or your mom that way.

I would also suggest you avoid him as much as possible. Don't put yourself in a position where he can abuse you. Get out of the house and spend time with a friend or family member if you can. If he wont stop saying those things, then get yourself out of the situation, even if you need to physically go somewhere else.

Still tell your mom not to put up with this, and continue to get your therapist and counselor to talk with her about it. Make the complaint constant so that she can't ignore it no matter what. Are any of her friends or family aware of this as well? If they are (and I suggest this only if they are) then maybe you could get them to talk to her about it and let her know that she doesn't need to put up with it. She is not in a healthy relationship for herself and you.

Stay strong and take care of yourself.

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Thanks. I do try to hide in my room when he's around. And I talk to my mom almost every day telling her that it's not right. I've even told him stop. It works for 2 mins then it gets worse. Also my mom has faimly issues so she has zero people to talk about.


   
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