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Losing my friends if I carry on - January 29th 2016, 09:19 PM

I have various mental health conditions the worst being my anxiety which is very severe sometimes. When I'm feeling really down I'll generally message a few people- one in particular and insult them. I can get really mean. I know this is a horrible thing to do but it only happens when I feel really bad and need to let it out. I do have a lot of panic attacks because of this but it doesn't really let it out. The boy that I'm esspecially insulting to actually helps me a lot when I'm not feeling down and is one of my best friends ever but if I carry on like this I will lose him. So far after I'm calm I'll say sorry and he'll says its alright but tonight we were messaging and he said sometimes he feels like ditching me cos he doesn't like being insulted but his heart tells him not to. I know I'm going to lose him before much longer and I think if I found someone else I would do the same. I know it's horrible to do but I don't know what else to do when I'm angry which recently has been nearly every day. How do I change? How can I make it up to him? If I had more confidence in myself I wouldn't doubt that he hates me so I wouldn't insult him of get angry. I need to get more confidence., I do counselling but it hasn't worked yet. Help please before I lose people I love.. I can't control myself anymore


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Re: Losing my friends if I carry on - January 30th 2016, 10:41 AM

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I think that apologize and warn him about your mood and that you won't ever mean what you say. Tell him that pressure and health conditions can lead to you saying things you don't mean, and that he deserves better than to take these to heart. He seems like a really nice boy, and you should focus on other alternatives/ activities to deal with your anxiety and tension. Calming music, punching pillows and rock music all help as they are an outlet for your stress and feelings. This will certainly help you to overcome your anxiety in a guilt-free way. There's no point being anxious and thinking too much about anything ... better to take things as they come.

Moreover, I think that the best thing when it comes to friendships is a good heart-to-heart. Maybe treat him to something nice or surprise him... and this time, I know that you're really feeling sorry and guilty... just don't blame yourself, and remember that there's plenty of ways to handle your frustrations.

If he's as nice as I think he is, he'll be okay. But what you must remember is that friendship is a two-way thing. Tell him that you'll be there for him if he needs any help or care, and remember to take his interests to heart He took an interest in helping you and wants to make your life better. If you get along well with him and remember to be considerate, I'm sure that he'll appreciate it a lot.

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Re: Losing my friends if I carry on - February 8th 2016, 07:21 PM

Hello! The previous reply has lots of good advice, I'd just like to add that when you're feeling down or angry and you feel like you might send some mean messages you could lock, turn off or put your phone somewhere far away so you won't be as tempted to go on it and this could help you find others ways to let out your stress/anger. Im here if you ever want to talk <3
   
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