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Post I'm allowed to be best friends with a guy, right? - May 20th 2009, 03:14 AM

So me and this guy Zach are getting really close, which is weird because I never thought he liked me and he never thought I liked him. But my friend Jenny had us hang out together and we got along really really well! He started saying we are like twins, so that's our joke now is we are twins, which we do act very similar. It is kind of weird how similar we are!
He really likes my best friends Jenny, which just makes my heart melt! They would be so cute together! But Jenny broke up with her long time boy friend over Christmas break, and ever since then says real negative stuff about love not existing, and that she doesn't want a relationship, that it is pointless because it will just end. And she has lied to him about hooking up with another Zach. And she like Anthony too... So I feel bad for him, but her knows what he is getting into. I hope he doesn't get hurt though..
Anyway, people keep asking if ME and zach have a thing! I hate those questions, because people don't believe me when I say no! Anyway, I don't think I like him at all. I just love his company! Someone today was like, Oh come on Lish.. You can't BE friends with guys and not have SOME sort of feeling there! and it got me thinking, what is there is a feeling there, just very small, that I haven't notices yet! And if there is.. Then what if I end up getting hurt?! I mean, I don't think about Zach in any sexual way or dating way, I just think about chillin with him n other people and laughing and having a good time. What do you guys think?!
   
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Re: I'm allowed to be best friends with a guy, right? - May 20th 2009, 04:23 AM

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It's alright to have friends who are guys, it doesn't mean you have to secretly have a crush on them. My best friend for years was a guy, and we did end up dating but we broke up quite quickly, because well several reasons, but mainly because there were no feelings there.

My other guy friends are just my friends. You don't have to be in love with him, to love him as a friend. Anyone who tells you that you do is wrong.


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Re: I'm allowed to be best friends with a guy, right? - May 20th 2009, 04:39 AM

Hey Alisha. Of course you can have guy friends! Nothing wrong with that at all. It annoys me so much when people say that you can't. I think it's pretty cool you guys are so compatible. Don't let people make you start questioning if its a friendship or something else. Just accept it and go with the flow.


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Re: I'm allowed to be best friends with a guy, right? - May 20th 2009, 04:59 AM

Thats how I feel about it! I never became friends with him with the intention of ever getting feelings, and if a relationship happened, and it ended more then likely so would our friendship, or it would at least be damaged. It's nice having guy friends around, and having a best guy friend is even better.
   
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Re: I'm allowed to be best friends with a guy, right? - May 20th 2009, 05:12 AM

Seriously! I miss middle school, when you could be friends with a guy and its just that, a friendship. I hate it when you're friends with a guy and you know, you're not flirting or anything, you're just hanging out with them and stuff and then they get the idea that there's something else going on.....ugh.


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Re: I'm allowed to be best friends with a guy, right? - May 20th 2009, 03:25 PM

It's totally cool to be best friends with a guy.. most of my friends are guys. don't let anyone tell you any different.

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Re: I'm allowed to be best friends with a guy, right? - May 20th 2009, 03:44 PM

It's fine to be best friends with a guy! Most of my close friends are guys, they don't judge me / arenowehere near as catty as some girls I know.
But being friends with a guy comes with that tease unfortunately. Try and ignore and hopefully they'll get bored sooner / later.


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Its totally fine to friends with a guy from my point of view. All of my really good friends are girls! No worries! Just ignore what your peers might say. Its totally normal. There are tons of girl guy friends all across the world. No problem


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Re: I'm allowed to be best friends with a guy, right? - May 20th 2009, 08:30 PM

OMG I WENT THROUGH LIKE EXACTLY THE SAME THING!!!! Seriously, he even liked one of my best friends who didn't like him back :/ so yeah i know what you mean and nearly everyone was saying we should get together etc...

Only one kinda major difference with me was... I REALLY DID like him like... a lot :/ but you know what? I decided not to act on it (cutting a looong story short) and then i found my right guy in my current bf and im sooo happy i realised that i only liked him as a friend and thats all we could ever be etc... but yeah of course it's ok to have best friends who are guys!!! I'm now really good friends with the guy and its great

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Re: I'm allowed to be best friends with a guy, right? - May 20th 2009, 08:40 PM

My best friend is a guy. We've been best friends for a little over a year and 8 months.
My bf doesn't have a problem with it. Luckily,we all get along. haha


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Re: I'm allowed to be best friends with a guy, right? - May 20th 2009, 09:30 PM

Hey Alisha,

It sounds like you and Zach have made your feelings and friendship clear to one another, and that is what's important. Try not to worry about what other people think about the two of you hanging out. Just because they feel that way when spending time with guys doesn't mean that EVERYONE does!

A good chunk of my friends are guys, and no one ever really questions it anymore. People ask at first because they automatically assume something is going on, but there isn't and they do realize that.

Just give those people some time. They'll catch on

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Re: I'm allowed to be best friends with a guy, right? - May 20th 2009, 10:51 PM

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OMG I WENT THROUGH LIKE EXACTLY THE SAME THING!!!! Seriously, he even liked one of my best friends who didn't like him back :/ so yeah i know what you mean and nearly everyone was saying we should get together etc...

Only one kinda major difference with me was... I REALLY DID like him like... a lot :/ but you know what? I decided not to act on it (cutting a looong story short) and then i found my right guy in my current bf and im sooo happy i realised that i only liked him as a friend and thats all we could ever be etc... but yeah of course it's ok to have best friends who are guys!!! I'm now really good friends with the guy and its great

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eek! i guess i have had situations like this before where i did like the guy.. lol it happens.
   
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