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My boyfriend and I had sex and our parents lost their trust in us. How to help regain it? - July 21st 2009, 04:17 PM

My boyfriend and I have lost the trust of our parents. Why? Because my
boyfriend and I had sex, and my mother found out when she picked up the house phone to make a call. You see, what happened was that it was VERY heat of the moment, way at the wrong time of the month(I'm in the middle of my cycle=most fertile),and unprotected*. I have already taken the morning-after pill.
Anyways, because of this, our parents lost trust in us. We both have apologized to our parents(him to mine, but I'm going to apologize to his mother today) and know they are extremley dissapointed in us.
How do we regain their trust back?

*We had originally planned to use protection(the pill w/ spermicidal condoms) but as I said, it was very heat of the moment.
Oh and it was his first time, and my second. The only difference was, this time I truely wanted to do it because I love him, not just to try to make some idiot like me more.

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Re: My boyfriend and I had sex and our parents lost their trust in us. How to help regain it? - July 21st 2009, 06:17 PM

hey Ash,
unfortunatly, i think it will just take time for them to trust you both again. i am assuming that you are both legalally allowed to have sex, however, for parents, your never really allowed. i mean, who wants to think of their children having sex, its the same way we dont want to think of our parents having sex. ew, mental image...
anyways....they probably are thinking that you are always having sex at anytime of the day and anywhere, which isnt true from what youve said. it cant be easy for them to realise that you are both growing up and that this is what your going to do.
i think you should talk to your parents, or maybe just your mum and explain how you feel about your boyfriend. if you let her know whats going on, she may feel like he is a good boy for you to be seeing. at the moment she may be thinking that hes taking advantage of her "innocent and precious little girl".
as i said, i think it may just take time.
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Re: My boyfriend and I had sex and our parents lost their trust in us. How to help regain it? - July 23rd 2009, 09:56 PM

well you should try telling your parents that it was a decision you guys made together, and that it's something you both wanted.
unprotected with no pill isn't smart.

but tell your parents what you told us. you love him, and wanted to.
i'm not sure how else to help.

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