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HELP ME I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO! - August 14th 2009, 08:25 PM

so i have a friend. a best friend. but she has gone through a lot in her life. such as, abuse, self inflicted pain, and if i recall a litte bit of drug issues. most of the time, i can help her through her bad situations, and everything goes back to normal for the most part. she has been to specialists and doctors for her "problems", but all of them are saying different things, telling her she has to go to an institution, that shes gonna die and all this other crap.

recently she stopped cutting herself, but now she has turned to burning herself. she came to me for help, and i told her that what she was doing was stupid. she got a litle mad. i want to help her i really do. its just sometimes i cant handel it, or i dont know what to do to help her. i know she looks to me to be her savior, but i cant help her all the time. sometimes i dont think she understands that. i love seeing her happy, and i love helping her, she is my very best friend and she means everything to me, i just cant handel everything she throws at me. i cant.

how do i let her know, that i wanna help her, but its putting a lot of stress on me, without hurting her feelings, orhaving her take it the wrong way?

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Re: HELP ME I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO! - August 14th 2009, 09:34 PM

Just tell her that, I know you want to help your friend but you have to help yourself too. Just be there and let her rant to if she needs, she's seeing professionals who do have her best interest at heart and are trained to deal with subjects of this matter.

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Re: HELP ME I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO! - August 15th 2009, 01:56 AM

i hope she that she will feel better maybe you should tell her first that she's your best friend in the world. then tell her that if you have a problem, you can always listen but sometimes you cannot help her as much as she wants you to. maybe in a nice way, you should tell her that she should not always be dependent on your help, but she has to learn to stand on her own two feet. i know this sounds harsh, but let her know that she means a lot to you, but at times, she has to think of how you feel too. i hope this helps!

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