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My wedding and my mother - August 19th 2009, 04:59 AM

Hi all,

I'm hoping to get some advice on what to do here.

Well, I am getting married on October 2nd, and everything is going wonderful and everyone is happy. The only problem right now is my mother. We don't know if it's just her thyroid, or if the thyroid condition is aggravating her bipolar disorder. Either way, she is on medication for her hyperthyroid condition (her thyroid is 3 times the size it should be, which leads to hyperactive activity- she's lost a ton of weight, and moves around very fast) but it does not seem to be getting any better. Her symptoms are in line with her bipolar disorder as well, as I've seen her have several episodes before. She is not on any medication for that. But, she will not listen to us and refuses to go to the doctor or commit herself to the hospital.

The point to all of this is that I really can't take any more of this emotionally. I feel completely beat down and like I don't even want to see her anymore. Yes, I know it's not her fault, but there is no way to get her help and supporting her does no good when one minute she says I'm the best, then the next she says that "she has no children" and storms out. I just feel completely drained.

But, more importantly... I don't know if I can have her at my wedding or not. I really.. obviously want my mom to be at my wedding, it's the most important day of my life. But I just don't think she can come in her condition. I feel so completely torn apart here. What do I do? What CAN I do? There is no forcing her to go to the doctor, and I can't have this at the wedding... but I feel like such a horrible daughter even considering not having her there. What do I do?

Please... anything that can help me? I'm feeling really low at the time in my life that should be the happiest....



   
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Re: My wedding and my mother - August 24th 2009, 08:58 PM

Thats a really tough decision.. But I think you really need to sit her down and tell her how you feel, that you care about her well-being, and that she needs to get help or something consitering shes bi-polar.
Dont feel like a terrible daughter for consitering to not have her at your wedding.. I'd probably feel like that too if I was in your position.. once again, you might need to talk to her about how shes going to act at the wedding.. itll probably be a really hard conversation, but i think its necessary.
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