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Letting Go Of a Best Friend. - September 27th 2009, 04:25 PM

A couple of years back, my best friend and I were really close. Nowadays, she's drifting away and she doesn't care anymore. I need help to just leave her alone and move on. It's just too damn hard, but I know it has to be done. I can't just keep being best friends with someone who treats my birthday present to her like a piece of trash and forgets about it. I just can't.
   
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Re: Letting Go Of a Best Friend. - September 27th 2009, 04:47 PM

Make new friends, if you're sure about this.
Spend more time with other people.
   
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Re: Letting Go Of a Best Friend. - September 27th 2009, 06:06 PM

Treats your birthday present like trash? That sounds shallow...
What exactly happened?
   
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Re: Letting Go Of a Best Friend. - September 27th 2009, 08:40 PM

Hi There!
Drifting away and losing people to others is something that happens to many of us throughout life. It's a sad fact that people DO change; and mostly it's for the worst.

You just have to be accepting of that and try your best to move on. You don't have to resent or hate these people because they did effectively shape your life in one way or another - they were once a huge part of it; therefore leaving a great impact on it. They don't need to be forgotten. Be thankful they were in your life and now try to meet new people who will hopefully be in your life for much longer.

Friendship/Relationships and the like are like trial and error. You go through many people before finding the 'true' ones; the right ones.

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Re: Letting Go Of a Best Friend. - September 27th 2009, 09:35 PM

Hey!

Well I'm sure there has to be explanation for her behavior, so why not
talk to her for starters, I mean whatever happened between you guys that drifted you guys apart, I be curious to know if my best friend just stopped talking to me one day, yeaa I be dying to know, however I do agree with Lisa, people DO change,but you will find 'true' friends that will appreciate and does respect you, but I still would suggest talking to her. If not, if she won't talk to you then maybe it's for the best to move on, start making new friends :].Good Luck! ")





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Re: Letting Go Of a Best Friend. - September 28th 2009, 02:01 AM

... it's a good idea to really talk to her abt this, let her no it's really bothering u, adn tht her friendship has had an impact, ask her wat she thinks got in btwn... find the faults in ur friendship, ask her abt them, without accusing her. she may have her reasons.
... if u see tht she just needs time away, then give her the distance.
sumtimes the best thing in a relationship is sum distance. its true.
but watever u do, leave the doors of friendship open, unless she does sumthing awfully big.
and however far u two drift, never forget to honor ur old best friend. bcos she may not be in ur present, but she helped shape the person u r now.
hope tht helped!
   
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Re: Letting Go Of a Best Friend. - September 29th 2009, 08:32 PM

I'm in a similar situation now. But it's been gradual. I've spent time away from my only friend, my best friend, and tried to imagine my life without her. If you say goodbye to them in your head slowly, then (I hope) it won't hurt as much when you have to make the split.
   
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