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Unhappy Help! My 'Best' Friend - December 24th 2009, 02:15 AM

This is a rant, but I'm also asking for advice.

Me and my best friend have known each since we were two. We've been best friends ever since then. My family moved three hours away a year and four months ago. My best friend came to visit us in our new house this last August. We used to live in the city, but now we live in the country.

My family are very outdoorsy. We love to hike and spend time outside. Anyway, we showed her around our new town and the countryside surrounding it. We took her to a state park and waded in the river there. She was so scared to get in that water because we told her there was quicksand 75 miles DOWNSTREAM. She finally did, but only after a bunch of complaining.

Then for the rest of the week, she complained a lot. She even went as far as to tell me and my dad stuff she doesn't know much about. These things were mostly about dogs, some were about the surrounding region and other animals though.

And at the end of that week, I was about ready to ring her neck. That Wednesday, she was blaming me and my family for not telling her to pack her things. She knew she had to pack. She blamed me because she had lost some of her things. I was MAD at her!

When we all got back to the city, she stopped complaining. In fact, the next day when my mom, bro, her mom, she, and I went shopping, she was actually pretty pleasant. Until we stopped by Wendy's for dinner. There was mustard on her burger and she said that she would die of a heart attack if she ate it. My mom told her to just scrape it off, but she threw it away instead.

Here it is, four months later and she has never called, emailed, or messaged me once. I have emailed and messaged her, but she only emails me a bit and might we exchange emails for a days, but then she stops talking to me. I've been feeling that when I'm trying to talk to her on the phone, she wants to get off the phone with me. I also feel like she has been hiding stuff from me. I've been crying and feeling depressed because of this.

What should I do? Should I end the friendship, or just be friends with her, but not best friends anymore? Should I ask her why she has been ignoring me? Please give some advice!

P.S. Sorry it's so long. I just had to get it out of my system.

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Re: Help! My 'Best' Friend - December 26th 2009, 12:06 AM

I don't think the definitions of 'friend' and 'best friend' as seperate things are particularly useful but then maybe thats me. If she's not contacting you then maybe its best to accept you guys aren't gonna be as close as you were cos of the distance. Its always tough when you grow apart from someone but it happens. I'd say don't waste too much time and energy on her. Keep in touch but don't write her massive long messages if you know she's not gonna make the effort. Sorry!
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Re: Help! My 'Best' Friend - December 28th 2009, 04:36 PM

Don't be sorry. There is nothing to be sorry about.
Talk to her and ask her if she still wants to be friends and to be honest with you. Then depending on the answer it will be clear.

Just as dancinfool said, you might not be as close as you were because of the distance. And also don't spend much time and strength on her.
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