TeenHelp
Support Forums Today's Posts

Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr     Instagram    Hotlines    Safety Zone    Alternatives


You are not registered or have not logged in

Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!)

As a guest on TeenHelp you are only able to use some of our site's features. By registering an account you will be able to enjoy unlimited access to our site, and will be able to:

  • Connect with thousands of teenagers worldwide by actively taking part in our Support Forums and Chat Room.
  • Find others with similar interests in our Social Groups.
  • Express yourself through our Blogs, Picture Albums and User Profiles.
  • And much much more!

Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!


Friends and Family Everyone has disagreements, even best friends and family. If you need advice about a relationship, ask us here.

Closed Thread
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
Member
Welcome me, I'm new!
*
 
TheZombieJuicebox's Avatar
 
Age: 24

Posts: 2
Join Date: May 8th 2010

Exclamation Are we ever going to get on? - May 8th 2010, 02:12 PM

Me and my mum have always argued , but recently, its gotten to a point where i will most likely end up crying after talking to my mum. We've always aruged about me being lazy, fat, and overall that my clean habbits are non-existant most of the time. But she makes it seem like i have some mental problem, and that i will never be able to look after myself. I've been to my school councillor about the whole situation and we got it sorted out between me and my mum, for about a day, before it all goes back to step one. I've even got my aunt and my cousin to talk to her about it, as she always listens to them. But like always, she never seems to take on board what the hell is happening. I even told my aunt that i've been close to commiting suicide over it, and everyday im pretty much thinking " what is the point of me living if im always going to be a burdon on her, and i can never make her happy." Im sure she even knows this. I just really don't know what to do anymore cause nothing seems to work. Advice pleasee someone?
   
  (#2 (permalink)) Old
PSY Offline
Hugh Jackman ♥

TeenHelp Veteran
*************
 
PSY's Avatar
 
Name: Robin
Age: 30
Gender: Female
Location: Southern California

Posts: 10,025
Blog Entries: 35
Join Date: June 12th 2009

Re: Are we ever going to get on? - May 10th 2010, 11:47 PM

Hey there. First of all, I'm sorry to hear that you've been contemplating suicide. =( If you ever want to talk privately, you're welcomed to message me. <3 You shouldn't have to go through this on your own.

Secondly, I think you need to take a step back (emotionally), and try to find a "pattern" in your arguing. What tends to trigger your arguments? The first step is to find a way to prevent some or most of these arguments from happening in the first place. After that, analyze what happens during the arguments. What words or specific behaviors seem to "trigger" your mother? What words or specific behaviors seem to "trigger" you? Make a list of all these things. Finally, talk to your mother - CALMLY - about how each of you can improve upon your communication, and find healthier ways to express yourselves. Use "I" phrases vs. "you" phrases (ex. "I feel threatened and begin to cry" vs. "You yell at me so much that I cry"). Be respectful of her viewpoints, and hopefully she will return the favor.

Good luck! <3





   
  (#3 (permalink)) Old
Jacksonian Offline
Member
I've been here a while
********
 
Jacksonian's Avatar
 
Name: Jackson
Gender: Male
Location: 3rd Rock from the Sun

Posts: 1,522
Blog Entries: 2
Join Date: November 6th 2009

Re: Are we ever going to get on? - May 13th 2010, 05:30 AM

Try out what PSY said.


I came here to help out, so if you wanna talk or just need someone to bounce ideas or issues off of or something else then send me a message and I will reply as soon as I can.
   
  (#4 (permalink)) Old
Member
Welcome me, I'm new!
*
 
TheZombieJuicebox's Avatar
 
Age: 24

Posts: 2
Join Date: May 8th 2010

Re: Are we ever going to get on? - May 22nd 2010, 01:21 PM

Thank you so much Psy I'm going to try out your advice and i really do hope it works
   
  (#5 (permalink)) Old
MWF Offline
Member
I've been here a while
********
 
MWF's Avatar
 
Name: Robert
Age: 24
Gender: Male
Location: The Best City On Earth

Posts: 1,711
Join Date: May 22nd 2010

Re: Are we ever going to get on? - May 23rd 2010, 05:42 AM

I'm really sorry about whats going on, because sometimes its about the same way for me.
I tell lots of people this, because its smart. DONT WORRY. GO TO A CATHOLIC PRIEST.
   
Closed Thread

Bookmarks

Tags
mum, relationship issues

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




All material copyright 1998-2019, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct | Complaints

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.