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Parents and a New love intrest - May 18th 2010, 03:57 PM

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Theres a guy who was jut a friend for about a year... But at the begginnng of this year He asked me on a date. My mother Freaked out!And everytime since that we've been out together she makes a big deal out of it. Both my parents have met him before. My dad has a positive opinion of him... but my mom doesnt.... I dont know what to do. Im tired of her freakin out everytime i have a date.

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Re: Parents and a New love intrest - May 18th 2010, 05:08 PM

Hey there, Oli! I remember what it was like, when I first started dating my boyfriend. Or rather, when we first starting going on dates, but weren't "official" yet. Everyone made a big deal out of that, too! I think it's just something that a lot of people do... they love the drama, the romance, the possibilities. xD Keep doing whatever it is you want to do, and sooner or later, the novelty and excitement will wear off.





   
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Re: Parents and a New love intrest - May 18th 2010, 05:15 PM

haha its not excitement xD Its more like Loathing on her part... lol a better way to explain it: She acts like i shouldnot like or want to date guys and that they shouldnt want the same.

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Re: Parents and a New love intrest - May 18th 2010, 11:29 PM

Hey, that's tough :P

Have you ever had a boyfriend before? It sounds like your Mom is just not ready to let you go and do your own thing. Just remember, although they may not always make sense, parents do just have your best interests at heart. However, they may not approach the situation as best as they can. As long as you're happy and the relationship isn't toxic, I see no reason why you can't continue it without your mothers approval. Just ask that she respect him when you bring him around, she doesn't have to like him, that's not a requirement (it's just a bonus).


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Re: Parents and a New love intrest - May 21st 2010, 02:36 AM

Why not try and talk to her. Can you do that ? The best way would be just to go to the source and ask instead of guessing. If you can try talking to her.


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Re: Parents and a New love intrest - May 21st 2010, 03:50 AM

Yeah, sit her down and talk to her about it. Tell her that you respect her opinion of him, but that she needs to respect your decision to be with him and at least be nice when he is around. Maybe you could even try to find out what bothers her so much and try to resolve it.

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Re: Parents and a New love intrest - May 21st 2010, 06:36 AM

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Hey, that's tough :P

Have you ever had a boyfriend before? It sounds like your Mom is just not ready to let you go and do your own thing. Just remember, although they may not always make sense, parents do just have your best interests at heart. However, they may not approach the situation as best as they can. As long as you're happy and the relationship isn't toxic, I see no reason why you can't continue it without your mothers approval. Just ask that she respect him when you bring him around, she doesn't have to like him, that's not a requirement (it's just a bonus).
I totally agree with natalie. I mean, parents are like that. They are always protective. It's their job. As long as you are happy and he's happy, I don't you need to end the relationship. But if you are getting worried about your mom freaking out then why don't talk with her. Find a time when she's in her mood. Get her some coffee to cool her even more. And then talk to her. Ask her why she's not happy you dating him. And explain to her that he's a good guy.
   
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Re: Parents and a New love intrest - May 21st 2010, 06:43 AM

Your mom sounds like my mom
My first boyfriend was a family friend and even though we had known each other since birth and both families got along well my mom would still make a big deal when I went on dates with him in the beginning but eventually she got over it and let it go. Just give her time so she gets used to the idea of you having a boyfriend.


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