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Tired of it. - February 10th 2009, 11:51 PM

Ahh im getting so tired of impressing my friends and being something im not. I tired of being a fake. I want to be me again. Im not who i am. Im soo sick and tired of impressing people at school. Soo many of my friends. I felt like I had no friends I thought I needed to change for the better so I could. and I did but to do that I started smoking,drinking,partying, hanging out with the wrong people. Thats not who I am. Yes I am fun outgoing and Veryyy shy! butThe perprsure and stuff I got so lost with my new friends. nothing seemed to bother me. But now I look and my life was so omuch easier. There was no Drama not a whole lot of fighting. I just dont know what to do anymore. anyone have any adivse??
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Smile Re: Tired of it. - February 11th 2009, 12:18 AM

omg I know what you mean. I used to be the same way, and I finally got sick of it. Here's what I'd do(did): If you're trying to impress them and if you cannot be YOU around them, then they cannot be true friends. Try talking to new people, and try to talk more. I know it can be hard and intimidation at times, but if you want to find some friends that you can be around, try talking and relating to people. Don't lie and be someone your not, otherwise you might end up the same way.
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Re: Tired of it. - February 11th 2009, 12:27 AM

You should never change who you are for other people. I was always a little bit weird at school, I had quite alot of friends but I wasnt amazingly popular and the friends I did have LIKED the fact that I was odd. I couldnt help the way I was back then. Then after I left school I tried to change myself to fit in at college, I kept it up for so long that my fake personality finally stuck to me and it's become who I am now. I cant change back to how I was. If you're yourself then someone will recognise how genuine you are and they'll admire you for that. Please dont lie to yourself and other people anymore, it does more harm than good.

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Re: Tired of it. - February 12th 2009, 09:28 PM

Hi there,

It definitely sounds like this was not a positive change for you. There are good changes and bad changes, and this one was not healthy for you and even for who you are! You should feel like you are able to be yourself at any time. If these friends are holding you back from that, then maybe it's time to find a new group.

You are a good person, and I think it's great that you are realizing that you should be able to be who you really are. Find people that appreciate you and I'm sure you'll start feeling a lot better.

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