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So how do I manage this now? - February 14th 2009, 10:07 PM

My ex has cancer again.. the third time in his life. and I'm so confused as how to handle this situation. I don't have those sort of feelings for him anymore.. but I do enjoy spending time with him. THough usually that just entails watching tv since he doesn't have alot of my interests...
Idk. I'm just confused. I'm not ready to lost someone else in my life. And I don't want to be left with any regrets, and I want to make him happy too.. oh... geezz.
   
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Re: So how do I manage this now? - February 14th 2009, 10:48 PM

hey julie, im sorry to hear about this. with him being your ex and the way things usually turn out when people break up, im sure he is happy knowing that your still there for him through this rough time. its ok that you dont have those feelings for him anymore. im sure hes alright with being friends. its always hard losing someone and the only thing you can do for that person is to be there for them with an open heart. ask him if theres anything that you can do for him to make things a little better. i really hope that things get better. and if you ever need to talk, just message me anytime.

good luck with everything and stay strong!! staying positive is the best way to go.
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Re: So how do I manage this now? - February 14th 2009, 10:51 PM

Hey Julie,
That's a really hard position to be in. Just let him know that you're there for him. That's all you can really do. Hang out, talk, whatever you normally do together. You don't have to treat him differently. Even if you don't have feelings for him it's alright to be friends. I'm sure he really needs that right now. I hope everything goes okay. Keep faith!


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Re: So how do I manage this now? - February 15th 2009, 10:49 PM

God, I'm scared shitless. I don't know what to do. Or how to re-act. I can't lose anyone else in my life. I don't know how I'll handle it. And I want to go away to college next year, perhaps states away! But I don't want this regret hanging over me for leaving...
   
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Re: So how do I manage this now? - February 16th 2009, 08:52 AM

hey julie.

and this coming from a dude... the most important knowledge for guys is that.. they have someone there to spend time with and be happy together with them. hence, the sweetest thing you can do is to spend time together with him and to have homely chats in front of the tv that he will definitely cherish.

and just having those thoughts .. already makes you a good friend that anyone would be lucky to have and know.. so you should be proud of yourself.

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Re: So how do I manage this now? - February 16th 2009, 03:31 PM

Hi Julie,

I noticed a lot of people commented on spending some time with your ex and letting him know you care already, but I'll just reinforce that it's okay to be friends. You can visit him and write him letters and I'm sure he will appreciate your support.

Losing someone is hard, but that's the way it is sometimes. Don't let it stop you from going to college. Although your ex is a friend to you, that doesn't mean you should give up college for him. Don't regret having to leave. You can still stay in contact with him over the phone, letters, or email while at college.

All the best to you and your ex.

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