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Should you ask friends to be invited to outings? - October 20th 2010, 05:00 PM

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This isn't really a serious topic or anything so I understand if it's ignored :P But I want your guys' opinion on this....

I have a group of friends who organise a lot of outings and stuff. But most of the time I have to ASK about it before being invited instead of them asking me and INVITING me to go. So everytime I want to ask about what they're planning to do, I feel like I'm inviting myself and "imposing" - it feels like I have to ask to prompt them to invite me which results in me thinking I'm not meant to be invited in the first place :S I've told another friend about it and she said they've probably forgot to ask me....but it happens one too many times....

Is this right/fair? OR should I just accept the fact that I have "forgetful" friends?


Thanks to whomever answer this, looking forward to your opinions

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Re: Should you ask friends to be invited to outings? - October 20th 2010, 05:32 PM

I know how this feels. A lot of my friends go out but don't invite me and if I do want to go I ask so I completely know what you mean.

I'm not really sure what advice to offer since I'm in the same situation but if they consistently do it then maybe they're doing it on purpose. I'm not trying to make you feel bad but you shouldn't have to ask them every single time.

Maybe try arranging something yourself and then inviting them out and hopefully they'll take a hint and start remembering to invite you out
   
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Re: Should you ask friends to be invited to outings? - October 22nd 2010, 07:51 PM

Hey there,

I too understand how you feel. If I find out that a group of my friends are going out, I have to invite myself because I never get an invite. It can be really stressful. But it begs the question: are they really your friends? If they really were good friends to you then they would invite you out too.

I would consider trying to make some new friends as well. It might make you feel better about this, take care.



   
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Re: Should you ask friends to be invited to outings? - October 23rd 2010, 04:39 AM

Tell your friends you would love to hang out with them more often, and that you would love for them to keep you in mind when inviting friends to parties and other get-togethers. Sometimes, they're only going to want to meet up with certain people. That's understandable... after all, I don't ALWAYS hang out with ALL my friends whenever I want to socialize. Sometimes, I just want to see one or two of them. =) But other times, your friends will invite several people, and hopefully, you'll be one of them. Good luck!





   
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Re: Should you ask friends to be invited to outings? - October 23rd 2010, 07:04 PM

Thank you so much for everybody's replies. It makes me feel a bit better that there are some of you out there who are in the same situation as me
   
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