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Sister has to live with what I did... - January 9th 2011, 04:46 PM

So, in highschool, I managed to attain a pretty high popularity by the end of it. It seemed like everyone loved me and I was able to get along with most people and I had friends in almost every group in the school.

Now, what I did not realize, is that my legacy would last beyond highschool. I am no in university. However, alot of people remember me and still talk about me apparently. I was mostly flattered with this.

However, recently, I've begun to realize that my sister is facing a ton of pressure because of this. She feels like she's just my little sister and not her own person when she's in the school. It's gotten to the point where she has fights with me because I coincidently met someone she knew(the most recent person being a boy she likes) and she feels I ruin her relationships with people because I change how they view her.

This was never my intention, and while I doubt I can stop people from remembering me, I would like to help relive my sister of any pressure I've unknowingly pushed on her and patch up our relationship. Any ideas?

For extra infor on her: She's 16, a bit tempermental but has gotten better over the past years, and alot of the times we act like good friends, but then something happens related to the above and sometimes I can make her feel better, sometimes I can't.


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Re: Sister has to live with what I did... - January 10th 2011, 08:51 PM

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I don't think you can really do anything to help her. I mean I remember when I went to high school teacher would call me by my sisters' name because we really looked alike. Now that I graduated my little brother is going to the same high school and he tells me how the basketball coaches call him by my nickname but use the word “little” so they call him “little animal” I was animal (inside joke I used to love animals)
Anyways the point I’m trying to make is older siblings seem to leave a part of them in high school that younger siblings take, the best advice you can give your sister is just tell her to be herself, not to take it bad when people tell her things about you. Its normal people and teachers obviously still remember you and that won’t go away in a day. I graduated 2 years ago and teachers still remember me, tell her to establish her own personality and be herelf.


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Re: Sister has to live with what I did... - January 13th 2011, 04:10 AM

Encourage her to be herself and not to try be you. Spend time with her also, you know, be a sister and encourage her own stuff too. Encourage the right things, don't encourage her to do the wrong things.


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