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overly clingy friend ??? - February 3rd 2011, 04:10 PM

i dont know if im being pathetic or not but i think i have an overly clingy friend, i mean she CONSTANTLY texts me - like i mean sends me at least 25 + texts a day, and messages on facebook, i dont mind people texting me but its got to the point where if she puts 'ok' in a text it sorta closes the conversation and i would be putting 'ok' back as a text and she then texts me saying ' why didnt you text back'. she doesnt really have many friends, shes a good friend its just she seems abit clingy maybe overly clingy, i dont really want to hurt my friends feeling as such but i just feel shes to clingy ? i dont want to hurt her feelings and i dont know what to do .



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Re: overly clingy friend ??? - February 3rd 2011, 04:52 PM

I remember having a very clingy friend similar to yours.

The best thing to do is to simply tell her straight up that you're not comfortable about how naggy she's getting. There's no better way than to be honest with her. It's as simple as saying that you just want some space. Remind her that she's a good friend so she doesn't get hurt.
   
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Re: overly clingy friend ??? - February 3rd 2011, 05:24 PM

i want to but i feel sorry for her as i am one of her only 3 friends, and she doesnt have a computer at home and i have feeling she lives with her nan, i dont really want to ask as such in case i upset her. i have told her i cant always text due to not having any credit she understands that, but sometimes i simply dont want to text and just want to be left alone. or find that when she puts 'ok' its a real conversation killer as such and i never know what to put.



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Re: overly clingy friend ??? - February 3rd 2011, 07:14 PM

I understand that you feel sorry for her... but if you don't point out this obnoxious behavior to your friend, she'll eventually push the few friends she DOES have away. Communicate with her. Explain that texting "ok" leaves you feeling uncertain as to what should be said next, if anything. Also explain that the constant texting is overwhelming, and she needs to back off a bit (maybe scale down to 10 per day?). If your phone plans allow, you could also encourage her to call you instead. That way, you can get everything out at once, vs. picking up the phone constantly to read her text messages, and you'll probably be able to avoid the "ok" problem if you're actually talking to each other.





   
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Re: overly clingy friend ??? - February 3rd 2011, 08:31 PM

true, its nice that she does text me its just excessive and yeah i could say that when she puts ok it leaves me unsure as to what to put next, it also gets tricky when she puts why didnt you text - i cannot always text back due to not having credit or something. its also hard because of before i spoke to her at college no body spoke to her and then i spoke to her and thats how we became friends. i will try explain that the texting seems abit excessive and overwhelming to me , its not always its just sometimes i need time to myself, just time to be alone.



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Re: overly clingy friend ??? - February 4th 2011, 05:48 PM

to be honest in my friendship i am the clingy friend
It's nice that you care so much about hurting her feelings. The reason she is clingy is she cares a lot about you and doesn't want to lose you. Every time you don't text back she worries you're mad at her.
But i understand that it's annoying.
Try to assure her that you think she's an amazing person. Just building up her confidence could make loads of difference. At the end of a text conversation or whenever you've had enough say something like 'nice talking to you, off to bed now' or 'text you later' or 'running out of credit now'. If that doesn't seem to make any difference, just nicely talk to her
   
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Re: overly clingy friend ??? - February 5th 2011, 04:41 PM

yeah i have in the past just put 'running out of credit text when i get more' which is usually true as i often do run out of credit!



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Re: overly clingy friend ??? - February 5th 2011, 04:53 PM

Um this is just me but most of my friends send me a minimum of 50 texts a day and that's even with phones without keyboards. So she might be used to another community where people send hundreds of texts a day.
   
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Re: overly clingy friend ??? - February 5th 2011, 07:08 PM

When she texts you asking why you didn't text back, you can always just tell her the truth - that you don't really feel like texting right now. I do that.



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Re: overly clingy friend ??? - February 8th 2011, 05:05 PM

true, she now knows i cant text at the moment due to no credit. i dont think shes used to a community where people just send loads of texts because we live in same community as such, i think its more she has unlimited texts and can text lots. but i did tell her today ran out of credit cant text .



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Re: overly clingy friend ??? - February 8th 2011, 11:09 PM

but have you tried telling her the full truth the times you just don't want to talk?



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Re: overly clingy friend ??? - February 8th 2011, 11:22 PM

I used to have such a clingy friend - well she just clings onto someone else now - and she would text me like no other! Even to the point of spelling out a word in several texts, one for each letter. :S When she would get into one of her texting frenzies, i would just wait a couple of hours before replying. And then reply in a simple, "OK".

Slowly, she got the idea that i wasnt really into frequent texting and gave it a rest. We are still friends, but not just as clingy. Just phase it out.
   
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