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Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 19th 2011, 06:36 PM

I'm curious. My parents don't care. My sister's ex-boyfriend was Indian and they couldn't care less.

As for religion they wouldn't care either, they're Buddhists and I'm an Atheist.


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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 19th 2011, 06:40 PM

My parents really wouldn't mind, they are very open minded about things liked that, which is good. :-)


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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 19th 2011, 06:58 PM

My mom told me that it wouldn't bother her, but that she'd warn us that we might face adversity because of it. I'm pretty sure my dad would feel the same way, he'd just want to be sure that the guy treated me right. My extended family is a little more judgmental for some reason so I'd be afraid to have him meet them, but hopefully they wouldn't do or say anything stupid. As for the religion thing, I'm not really sure. We aren't religious so if I dated a more religious guy it might raise eyebrows, but as long as his views weren't converting or too extreme I don't think they'd care.


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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 19th 2011, 07:44 PM

I don't think my parents would care about race. They might care about culture or immigration status, but those are separate issues from race. =P They might care about religion, simply because they would worry about our compatibility in the long-term, how we would raise our kids, etc. They certainly wouldn't stop me from dating those individuals, but they might ask me if this could be a problem in the future. Basically, they'd just want me to think about it, and only date if I was absolutely sure it wouldn't be a problem. =)





   
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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 19th 2011, 08:33 PM

I don't think my parents would care as much to be honest, they would probably just want me to be happy.





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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 19th 2011, 09:25 PM

Mine wouldn't mind, as long as I was happy with the person


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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 19th 2011, 09:50 PM

I've actually dated people of different races and religions before. My mother was fine with it and my father was usually fine with it. I say usually because although he has some racism toward blacks, lots of his racism is based on how he views stereotypical black behaviour, such as ghettos, slang, wearing this "gangsta" look, etc... . When the person is respectable then he doesn't mind. The only concerns both of my parents share are that any adversities we faced, we could get through and my academic career has a higher priority (which I agree with). That is, if me dating someone results in my academic performance getting poor, then my parents say I need to think rationally and practically in looking out for myself in the future. This is something I do agree with and for some relationships I've had, I broke it off because I wasn't doing well enough in school and each time, it was never pretty for them.


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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 19th 2011, 10:07 PM

Well, I'm dating a ginger so I guess not =p
But seriously, they wouldn't mind, my dad may joke about it but he'd make a joke no matter what they were like, in a humorous way, not offensive.
   
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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 19th 2011, 10:14 PM

Someone from a diffrent race no.
Someone from a diffrent religion there may be a conflict.


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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 19th 2011, 11:21 PM

I don't think my family would mind if I dated someone of a different religion, but I think they would mind if I dated an atheist. Actually, I know they would mind. But as far as race, I think they would find it a bit odd but they wouldn't care.





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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 20th 2011, 01:05 AM

My parents wouldn't care at all.


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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 20th 2011, 01:27 AM

My parents wouldnt mind at all as long as I was happy then they'd be fine with it.


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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 20th 2011, 01:28 AM

My parents are extremely open minded. They wouldn't care


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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 20th 2011, 02:18 AM

I'm pretty sure that my mother wouldn't mind me dating someone of another race. The same goes for religion, although she wouldn't be okay with me dating someone who was ridiculously devout.


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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 20th 2011, 05:04 PM

My parent's would kill me. They are extremely close minded and don't belive that it should happen. They made a big deal out of it when I dated a guy that wasn't Baptist. I mean really you're trying to make me break up with someone because they aren't Baptist!
   
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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 20th 2011, 09:00 PM

Nope, almos certainly not.
   
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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 21st 2011, 10:33 AM

My mum would care if I was in a relationship with someone who was violent or treated me badly. Race or religion doesn't change who the person is. If I'm with someone who makes me happy, my mum would be happy.
   
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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 21st 2011, 06:13 PM

Yeah my parents have made it clear they'd be upset.

I was once dating someone of a different race without my parents knowing. They thought we were just friends. My mom had the nerve to ask me to please not date him if he asked /rolls eyes. I'm sure she'd be happy to know our relationship didn't last very long.

Obviously though, my parents disapproval wouldn't stop me from doing it. And they sure as hell wouldn't say anything to the persons face about them being unhappy with my choice of partner.


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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 21st 2011, 06:56 PM

Nope. I'm not religious so that isn't a big deal. And I could care less about race. My dad would care, but he is stupid and I don't care what he thinks.
   
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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 21st 2011, 08:34 PM

They wouldn't dislike him for his religion, they're pretty open minded.
My dad would probably tease me if i dated someone who was any religion, as he is a firm athiest. But only jokingly, just as he would if i dated someone who supported a different football team to him. And he wouldn't say anything to him.
My mum wouldn't mind at all, as long as he wasn't violent/mean to me.
   
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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 21st 2011, 09:07 PM

i dont know, i dont think they would mind but i dont know, they arent racist but i dont know how they would react if i dated someone from a different religion, my parents are not really religious, but they seem to accept people do have different religions ect, but i don't think they would mind to much as long as they didnt try to impose thier religion on me ect i dont think my parents would mind to much, with my parents i would have to be in that situation to reallt know the answer.



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Re: Would your parents care if you dated someone from a different race/religon? - February 21st 2011, 11:32 PM

I'm not really sure, to be all honest. My half-sister married a man of a different race, and it hasn't been easy for her. My mom has always discouraged me from dating that race. (I won't specify the race, because I don't want to offend anyone.)

My mom can be judgmental, though she claims she's not racist. I mean, she has friends of all races, and all that jazz. But she is prone to making hasty generalizations.

I don't know how she'd feel if I dated like a Jewish person, or a Buddhist. She's always been open to me making my own decisions when it comes to religion.

She might warn me of the 'struggles' I might come across, but ultimately she'd know that it's my decision, and I honestly think she'd be accepting of whoever I brought home.

Personally, because I have never brought someone home for her to meet, I think she'd just be happy I found someone who I cared about, and who cared about me.


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