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The hard thought - July 18th 2011, 02:02 AM

I'm not sure where to put this but I'll put it here.

My friend boy friend has a rather abusive father. Just this week his father has strangled him, and put him in a headlock breaking his glasses. I am pretty sure this has been going on longer then they have been together. She tells me a lot about what his fathers been doing and has even gone so far as to tell me she doesn't mind his father's life ending. (I know she doesn't mean it but it scares me enough because she's usually a very sweet and nice person.)

The BF is to afraid to do anything but my friend send she's going to keep trying to get him to allow her permission to contact some sort of help. I'm not sure what to do. I want to help but I do not want to do anything without her BF's approval. It's doesn't help that the BF's also my friend...I thought coming here might help. Please.

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Re: The hard thought - July 18th 2011, 04:21 AM

You don't need his permission in this situation, in my opinion.

He's afraid for his life as it is. Imagine the danger he'd face if his father found out that he was involved in getting him in trouble. Perhaps that's why he doesn't want to ask for help. He has most likely become accustomed to this lifestyle. This will cause him serious emotional and mental distress in the future. You also have to consider that his father truly could kill him if he felt angry enough. The glass could have easily torn apart his skin and if the father held on longer, he could have easily suffocated his son. By knowing a wrong in the world and choosing to ignore it, you'll be equally to blame when your friend's boyfriend ends up deranged or dead. If I were in your situation, I'd contact the police or a higher authority that could remove him from his situation. I know that you're probably afraid to do something on this grand of a scale, but you'd be a hero if you did. You will have saved an innocent boy and given him the opportunity to take his life in a positive direction.
   
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Re: The hard thought - July 18th 2011, 08:00 PM

Since when do you need permission to report an attempted homicide? Your friend's boyfriend's father tried to STRANGLE him. Next time, he may not let go quickly enough. Do what your friend's boyfriend is too scared to do: contact the police.





   
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Re: The hard thought - July 19th 2011, 07:34 PM

You don't need his permission to report a person who is putting your friend in danger. What happenes when your friends father takes it a bit too far and it's too late to save him? I would report the father to the police immediately. Your friends boyfriend is in serious danger. You don't need his permission to do the right thing.


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Re: The hard thought - July 20th 2011, 12:26 PM

Yes I see! Thank you! Me and my friend will take care of this right away!
   
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Re: The hard thought - July 20th 2011, 01:57 PM

Awesome! Let us know if you need anything


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